So, Ive had this problem for the past maybe 6 months since I started taking an anti depressant for my severe anxiety.. I have taken these in the past with similar effects, but not this bad.. Now I am to the point where sex with my gf is hard. I know that I want to do it, but I dont get turned on like I should... When we start having sex I literally feel nothing, I struggle to stay hard as well. The only way I can make it work is if I can force myself to the point of orgasm (which is tougher than normal) than back off. Then I get a strong erection and can pretty much go until I cannot hold it in any longer, but then the problem is the exact opposite. I am constantly fighting the orgasm off, and if I go too slow I will eventually lose it.... This is so incredibly frustrating, I am fighting back and forth between getting off the medication. But it helps me deal with the anxiety so much better.. I was having horrible times before with severe panic attacks almost daily. I havent been able to find much of anything other than time to stop them either. I just HATE how it messes with my sex life.. Previously (when I was on a different med) all it would do is delay my orgasms a little bit. I would never cum too quickly, but now I just had to try a little harder when I wanted to orgasm. Gahhhhhh
Try taking zonc, exercising, eating more fat etc.. idk if any of these or a combination of them will overpower your medication but it's worth a try.
Talk to the doctor that put you on the anti depressants/anti anxiety medication about trying something else. It's highly likely you will find another medication that will help with your anxiety without disrupting your sex life. There are several medications for anxiety like Remeron, Wellbutrin, Lexapro, and Buspar that are generally considered least likely to cause sexual side effects (everyone is different so it's a bit of trial and error to figure out what works best for you). Good luck.
Hi fservice, Sorry to hear you are going through this. Agree with what his eden said about trying different meds. You also might want to check out these threads: https://www.hipforums.com/forum/topic/458019-treating-depression-and-anxiety/ https://www.hipforums.com/forum/topic/478672-acupressure-self-massage-for-treating-depression-and-insomnia/
If you feel constant anxiety, fatigue and get regular panic attacks then you shouldn't wonder why you have little or no libido.. The fastest way to refill yourself with life energy is to spend time in nature (the drugs will only ease the symptoms, but not solve the problem at its root. And you will be lucky to not become addicted to drugs - especially tranquilizers). The best effect will be from regular walks, in nature which are at least 1-2 hours long. The less people you will see during these walks, the better, because in this case you will not have the pressure to "play your social role" and react to their presence (even in distance), and you will be able to fully concentrate on yourself without distractions. If you are too tired to walk then you can just sit somewhere in the wood or at the lake/ river/sea and listen to the nature sounds and to your own deepest thoughts/feelings. And this is important – you have to listen to yourself very carefully, because your fatigue/anxiety/panic syndrome has emerged due to significant events in your life, when you didn’t listened to yourself and made various logical (but not heartfelt) decisions, which contradict to your true nature. In some areas of your life you are living the fake version of yourself for a long time, and it steals from you the life energy. To improve ones emotional state, some people suggest simple meditation, but I personally don't like it. It doesn't work for me. In my case, the best "meditation" is walking in wild nature. During these walks try to listen to your deepest thoughts (inner voice) about what YOU REALLY WANT to feel better in EACH and EVERY moment of your life. As soon as your emotional state will start to improve (not artificially enhanced with drugs, but balanced with your own work with yourself), your libido will follow......at this moment you have low libido not only due to the side effects of the drugs, but also due to insufficient energy in your body.......it is not your enemy........your body does the best he can to ensure overall balance and functioning of all functions (including sexual), but there are some "holes" in you, in your personality that must be closed.....and you can do it only by looking deeply in yourself, because no drug can fix it.......only your deliberate changes....towards your deepest essence, which screams at you and tries to get your attention (anxiety/panic attacks), but you didn't listen to it and just tried to silence it with another dose of drugs.........until now......
If you can afford it, go see a naturalpath doctor, they will treat your anxiety with something natural with no side affects.
This is one reason why I decline myself certain medications. I don't want my sex drive to be messed with, that shit'll just bring me down even more than I already am. Can't have that! I'd rather be depressed and have sexual energy than be depressed and have no sex drive. That'll just.. give me the shits even more.
