I recently got some devastating news and I now have no interest in sex. I feel bad for my partner bc I do not think he understands. This thing that I found out is all consuming and I honestly can not think about sex right now. I just need to be left alone ;(
Be open with your man. communication is very important. My wife has had very little interest in sex in years & understands that I still have needs. I'm into some kinky shit & she puts up with it, so I put up with her telling me NO almost every time I ask if she wants to join me in some kind of sex. she knows of my masturbation habits because I always ask if she would like to join in. I use her panties a lot because they are a part of her.
Tell him why you aren't interested. If he cares about you he will do his best to understand and support you. Not having an explanation could ruin things though. I went into a depression a few years ago and didn't want sex for months but couldn't tell my boyfriend why and that hurt him a lot. He start assuming I wasn't interested in him at all any more. It actually made him quite depressed too, so if you know why your sex drive is down I would tell him.
Talk to him about it for one. For two, understand his thoughts and feelings about it. A lot of men have a higher sex drive than the woman they are with. For three, find a compromise when you don't want to have sex. Give him a hand job, blow job, or be a live action model for him. Let him grab your ass, play with your tits, or grab on him while he masturbates. It'll probably turn him on quite a bit knowing that you are doing it strictly for his benift. Ya'll can still be physical and fulfill each others sexual needs without actually having sex. Another idea, what my husband and I call "mutual masturbation". Its painful for me to have sex too...I'm getting surgery soon to see if its endometriosis so I feel ya on every bit of it except my man does his best to be understanding and not bug me about sex. As long as I'm getting him off in some type of way, he's a happy camper. lol
Do you have the problems with your hormones? If so, you need to treated as this condition results in erectile dysfunction.
It's always better to give an explanation if you have some and when you don't, but there's no drive at all, I heard chocolate helps)
