Hey there! I'm new to this site but I need some helpful advice. To start, I'm 21 years old and I'm a lesbian. I've known I was ever since I was little but I truly realized when I was 17. I've only recently come out to some family and friends so this is all pretty new to me. Ok, enough about me. A little over two years ago, during my second semester of college, I met this incredible human being. She is funny, down to earth, has a great personality and she is breathtakingly gorgeous. But wait, there's a catch: she's my professor! I know, I know you probably have read a lot of these "I'm in love with my professor" stories but I really need help here. I've completely fallen for this woman over the past two years. I would NOT be writing this if I didn't think that there was something between us. Ever since I met her, I have felt something there and as time went on, it only got stronger. So, she totally knows I have a thing for her. I'm usually quiet in class but outside of class is when I usually talk to her. One time, I was sitting across from my friend who also had a little crush on the same professor and as she was walking towards us, I told my friend that she was coming. I usually joke with her so she didn't believe me (her back was against the professor) and so I kept telling her to turn around and once she did, she looked right at the professor and then back to me and I gave my friend the "oh my god how beautiful is she" look. Long story short, the professor noticed and she looked right at me and smiled/laughed so naturally, I gave her a wave as my face was bright red. Ever since that, I noticed that she is always smiling at me. When she walks by she always smiles at me, she laughs at my dumb jokes, she eats the cupcakes I make her (funny story), she always is just a little bit too close when helping me with an assignment (not complaining). So here it is. She's perfect and I'm in love with her. I know you can't obviously really believe that I am just from this post but I think I truly am. Also, I know that it may not seem (just from this post) that she has anything for me but there's more to it. More than I could ever put into words. Oh yeah I forgot to mention that she's a bit older... Ten years older. She's single and has been since the day I met her. She's a feminist and she's an all around amazing person. Basically, I love this woman and I'm graduating this semester and I will no longer see her. It hurts to even think about it. I care for her so much and no matter what I do, she's always on my mind. What am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to just move on without knowing what could have been? I'm extremely shy when it comes to this stuff but I know that even when I graduate she will still be on my mind. What should I do? Am I supposed to just move on and forever wonder what could have been? Thoughts?
You could always graduate first then tell her how you feel? Safest option all round, it would seem, unless you can think of a reason not to at that point? Plus, then if she turns you down you won't have to see her again.
Hmm. Would you have a way to see her AFTER you've officially graduated? If not, email would work, it's the modern version of writing a letter so it's probably second best to face to face. As to what you would say, I suppose not coming on too strong is key. Life isn't a movie haha, you could tell her that you've felt something for her for a long time and you're happy that you're finally able to express it.. As for the closing statement, I'm not sure, something along the lines of "I'd love to see you again." could work. Nothing too scary, just cool and simple and open ended.. That's how I'd play it personally, anyway. x)
Thank you for the advice! I still don't even know if I have the guts to even tell her but this is definitely a way I'd go about it. I also don't want her to think that I've only looked at her in a romantic way. She's an amazing professor too haha
Haha oh my. I remember reading something similar on Hipforums a week ago but from the professor's point of view. Anyway. Yes I'm with Abyssinian on this one. I think you should wait unitil you've graduated. I was in love with a girl in High School but waited until I graduated before telling her. Point is, it's easy for you to forget about it if it doesn't work out and you can just move on with your life. Best of luck to you
Haha that's funny! Could you link me to that post if possible? And thanks for the advice. I'm really thinking about letting her know how I feel. After I graduate of course lol
Can't find it now! (scrolled through my post history) But a lot of people were giving her shit for taking an interest in a younger student. I think this student was underage and she was flirting a lot.
Ah that sucks. We're both adults and I'd never do something stupid to jeopardize her job. That's why if I do decide to tell her how I feel, it'd be after I am completely finished with that school.
