I would like to have a girlfriend soon. I am a 19 year old male and I seriously do want a relationship, but due to a condition I have (phimosis), I won't really be able to enjoy the sexual aspect of a relationship and I don't want to make her feel bad for me during sex. I know this may sound bizarre, and I guess I'll have to settle to never having sex and pretty much staying a virgin for life, but will a girl mind if there won't be any sex in a relationship?
I'm sure you can have sex. Just be nice and slow. But, yea... there are plenty of girls who don't want or mind not having sex in a relationship.
Have you talked to your doctor about this? There must be something that can be done..... It would be such a shame to go your whole life without being able to enjoy sex. Seriously. Sex is one of life's greatest pleasures, in my opinion. I'd talk to your doctor, and see if he can refer you to another practitioner who specializes in this condition.
u put too much stress on sex- if u realize most girls boyfriends are not pornstars and probably have average penises and dont last long- so i "THINK" personality comes first with girls even if they want to be fucked like an animal. so i say just have a good personality and see what happens
I have to disagree. It's not one of the greatest pleasures in life. It's actually not a pleasure to many people. Anyways, let's not tell the OP how great sex is. Because if there is a chance they can't have sex it sucks when people who have had sex say how great sex is. Also, no pity. That is another thing most likely the OP doesn't want. Let's just think of an option to either deal with or terminate this problem. There are always options to deal with and/or terminate all problems. That is why we have 10% brain capacity. If only we were dolphins. Those creatures, with their 15% brain mojo. Whatever, I can walk on land. Now what? Nigga! Anyways, I'm getting off topic. OP, just figure it out. We can't. Because we're stupid. We are totally ignorant to what you're going through, what you have gone though, what you will go through, and just in general your thoughts, feelings, wants and needs. We're fucking idiots. You're smart. So, figure it out. You will find a way to deal with and/or terminate this problem. And like I said, there are plenty of women that don't care for sex. I have met two in my lifetime. Online, though. So, you might have to look for them online.
Aoabi, sorry, but your wrong, the condition the OP has, means he needs an OP to have a circumcision, or start stretching his skin, end of! Then he will have all the confidence in the world! Go see your doc, he is the best to tell you what will work..good luck man!
Well, the other option is to find a girl that isn't into sex. Like I said, there is always options. Even that surgery is an option. Not a likely option. Sounds fucking painful. But, it's still an option. I'm just a firm believer that there are always options to deal with or terminate any problem. I just can't believe that it's just "Oh, well... that sucks for you". Really? Fuck that shit. There has to be something to allow them to have sex, or be happy without it.
I don't necessarily agree in circumcision, but I think in this case, it might be necessary. The good news? I am sure the doctors could drug you up real nice, prior to, and following, the surgery.
So, you know about this condition, because you have it? Oh wow, did not know that about you. Well, you have a lot of sex, apparently. So, tell the OP how they can get sex while having this medical condition, considering you are all knowing about it.
Yea, becuase surgery is so easy due to the drugs. You got it all figured out, girl, as far as your life goes. The thread isn't even about sex. It's about whether or not women who don't care for sex exist, and the simple answer is they do. Plain and simple. End of thread. They're not asking whether or not the surgery is 'worth it' to have sex. For you, it is. Great. But, who knows about this person. They might even decide to get the surgery, not becuase of sex at all, it's becuase they just don't want to be 'normal'. Who knows. It's up to them. There are always options, but it's up to the person to decide what is best for that individual person.
Why are you getting so defensive? My "Speak for yourself" comment was mostly directed at your saying "We're stupid, we're fucking idiots".
I'm not getting defensive. Why are you getting so defensive? My comment about your comment, was mainly about how I thought you had the same medical condition as the OP, becuase you act as if you know how he feels, thinks, what he wants and needs.
The OP is saying they won't be able to enjoy sex but morrow is right, phimosis is a condition that is an easy enough surgical fix. If the OP for some reason doesn't want to have the surgery and find someone that never wants to have sex, that is going to be a much more difficult task. That being said, there are plenty more fun things to partake in than penetration alone
Wait, wait, wait... are we talking about foreplay here? Hmm, foreplay. Speaking of foreplay, I am going to have that tonight. Hmm, foreplay. I quite need it. I'm stressed right now. See, OP... foreplay is the shitz. No sexy time required.
Women are emotional beings. They don't typically "just want some dick" (well, some do but not all). They tend to want an emotional connection before a physical one. At least women who are ready for relationships, anyway. Once you make that emotional connection then you move on to the physical one, which for many of them is also emotional. At that point having "a stud in the bedroom" isn't really the goal. It's the ability to make a connection, share intimacy, make them feel special, and for them believe they can please you as well that makes for great sex. Women don't always orgasm during sex but that doesn't mean they didn't have a good time. And there are ways around your problem that will still give them earth shattering orgasms. I've known women who preferred oral sex over penetration and they all seem to enjoy toys. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, find ways to compensate for your "perceived" shortcomings because they're not really shortcomings, they're just challenges to overcome.
