love

there is a girl i like much but she has a online bf, and i also havent met her, we spoke much but i cant stop thinking about the fact that i love her but i cant express it cause she has a bf so im getting really mad or sad its a bit anoying i dunno what to do. I need to learn to only love her has a friend? please help

 

Find other girls you also like. Don't spend as much time talking to her, talk to other girls too.

 

Um… personally. Idk... unless the person is married or engaged - its fair game.

Thats my take, and I know I wouldn't want some chick thinking that or trying to get my man. So I have conflict with it myself, but its the harsh truth.

Why not see if she likes you back? You never know unless you try. If she says no then hey you can be free to move on instead of always wondering.

 

I think you'll find this is infatuation - Love is so much more
Honesty and Openness is the best policy - it seems to me you should tell her how you feel, what you would like and be true to your Heart.
In the short term, should the answer/s not be that which you wish, at least parameters can be set out to either work within - or you will know to move on

 

Agreed, although I'm not conflicted about this, I have very clear definitions between labels (bf/gf, spouse, fwb, friend, and acquaintance)

But the OP has to read the situation...does he have a shot or is he being walled and should look elsewhere.

Personally I don't give much status or credibility to boyfriend/girlfriend relationships that are online-only, it just seems fake to me. I always believe in making an advance toward someone you fancy and then take their response and it will be favorable to you or not.


Don't cling or become fixated on one person during the dating phase...your supposed to mingle and rate and compare.


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I however admit it is debatable about how persistent one should be in pursuing a crush given that I know some relationships, now marriages, of friends started with a few rounds of rejection and finally a shot for a relationship.

So idk that's a separate topic...persistence of pursuing crushes...another thread perhaps.

 

"i love her... i've never met her."

 

Often an online boyfriend is not much of a commitment.

So you only know her online?

 

yeah sorry for all this was just a hooked girl but not really love when i think about it might be cause i havent love a girl since a while