it's probably better not to analyze it too much. you don't have to necessarily define it if you feel like telling someone that you love them, it's ok just to tell them
Love is a romanticized concept to help us socially accept the primal desire to reproduce without scarring the children.
In the spirit of Valentine's Day, I would say .... its a load of bullshit. Seriously, I've seen it all before. I don't think I'll even open my Valentine's cards/emails. Here's my view. Pornography is the neutering of the human life force. (Or something like that). And romance is emotional pornography. Still, atleast I'm not a cynic : )
I've always struggled with love tbh and the meaning of it.Maybe its because Ive chosen the "wrong"guys to be with,I really don't know.When I met my first husband,all was fine until we got married.He changed a lot after that.He cocked up his finances numerous times,which causes me a lot of stress.Is that love?When your partner keeps doing stuff that upsets you,you ask them to stop and they don't?Nope,to me that's not love.Fast forward.....second husband.....He knews what caused my first marriage to breakdown,convinced me he was a better man etc.We got married,and guess what?It was all bullshit.Second husband had debts I didn't know about,lousy with money,caused me a lot of stress.Is that love?No. Ive come to the conclusion that really as humans we were happy to just pro create and then somebody had to mess it up by inventing that four letter word.I also don't believe we should just be with one person our whole lives.Im not talking sexually here.How many people do you know that have been married for years and are still genuinely happy together?Most folk I know are miserable.
Love is defined by the individual and is subject to change at any moment. There are also varying degrees of love, different forms (romantic, platonic, familial, etc), and typically has conditions attached (often with denial of said conditions).
Not being able to imagine life without them.....and that would include all the loves....family love, romantic love, pet love, elephant in the wild love.....etc., etc...... Love is accepting something for who and what they are unconditionally and not expecting you are going to ever change them.....If you get a dog....that is a love for life for most people....whether they make you angry by making you clean when you are not really feeling up to it, or whatever it is....you love them unconditionally.....and it is good to know who you marry inside out first and before you ever get married....and like and love the person you are marrying......for whatever life brings.
Thanks for answering guy's. Seems that love is all around as the not so great Wet Wet Wet sang! Or it's a heart-ache! Happy Valentines Day anyways.
