recently about a year and a half ago i met the love of my life.i quickly realized i used to have dreams of her and was having deja vu of he and her brother who i have still yet to meet..give you im only 24,being 22 when first dating her i was a selfish asshole and expected to much from her as i convinced her to grow with me as a couple planning to escape from society and be true partners.i couldnt take it that she always wanted to do personal things alone or with her own group of people.now that i am single i realize that is why i love her on top of connecting with her from a whole different wave length.even though we have slept with others,im sure.dosent mean that i can honestly say everything we did was the greatest thing to happen to me as far as love for one another.i talk to her every now and again through text message but i feel the only way i can get her back is through my connection with earths energy and being stable as an individual.us both having dreams of living in the forest and having kids have always been a goal but unless i build a cabin or an eco dome in the rural area of northern cali i dont see us getting back together.
If you need to "Live in a forest" in order to get together then I would go see a therapist. It's one thing to want to have a home in a rural area, your "all or nothing" attitude with regards to a specific (unusual) place to live is odd. Talk to a therapist. Even if you find a home in a forest, unless you can purchase a LOT of acreage, you can't be certain others won't build around you.
From the very little details given, I think it sounds like you and your ex do not favor the same lifestyles. And unless there is a compromise, which means both of you change, not just you or her, then I don't see how this relationship could work out. Then again, this is my own opinion and I'm not the one in this situation, so I don't know the details. But, it sounds like she is an extrovert and you sound like an introvert, to put it simply. Neither lifestyle, well... it's more psychosocial development, is good or bad. It's just different. Because it's different, it's clashing. So, the only way I think there is to fix that is to find a partner that is more similar to you or find a compromise with her.
