How do you get over a loss of a friend or family? I have had three of my grandparents, my Step Dad, my first ex boyfriend, an old nanny and her husband, two friends, and a divorce happen in the last ten years or less and I have people that don't talk to me that where very close. I miss them very much. I think I am over it and then something comes up and I miss them all over again.
I am not sure about that. I think it is more about what you do with that time that will make a difference or not.
I don't believe you can "get over" these losses. You just keep living. If we let ourselves descend into depression, then it's not that we need to get over it, it's that we need to understand that the hurt isn't going to just stop.. We have to just begin living as we used to, with the pain as part of it.. And over time the pain will become less intense.
I have friends that have lost their kids and I don't know how they do it. I have had friends that have lost spouses and siblings and parents.
Because the only alternative to coping, is not coping. My sister died a few years ago.. My dad was pretty devastated. I doubt he feels okay about it now. But what can he do? It's let his own life fall apart, or not. Humans usually have a pretty strong survival instinct. Pain is part of living.
Sorry to hear about your sister. As a parent I think the toughest loss to take would be the death of a child. You expect your parents to pass before and you do but no one expects to outlive their child.
