I’ve been into spanking, specifically f/m and F/M ever since I was 16, and have been searching a hot lady to spank me for 18 months straight. She doesn’t have to be necessarily tall or thin, but she must be attractive. I’ve tried other ad and dating sites but they all cost money to send messages, so I’m on here. I don’t want this to be a one time thing, I want a full-fledged spanking partner. If the lady requires me to be her boyfriend or husband I will take on the role, though I prefer causal relationships to serious ones. I want my spankings to be long and hard, until I’m limp blubbering and my arse is purple, and of course on the bare butt. I like hand spanking the best because of the intimacy and skin on skin contact. My favorite spanking implement is the martinet, because the leather thongs don’t cause serious or permanent damage yet sting like hell. I also like CFNM (clothed female naked male) and being bound; the embarrassment and helplessness arouse me greatly. My female disciplinarian should ignore my pleas for mercy and not stop until she decides. I’d like whoever spanks me to treat me in a loving and caring manner, as if she was my mother, godmother, babysitter, tutor, teacher, older sister, aunt, etc. On that note If she wants to take on a mistress role that’s fine, but I still want her to be affectionate and not cruel. She can call me puppy, pet, bad/naughty/little boy, but not pathetic, stupid, loser, worthless, or slave, slut, and whore in a derogatory manner. I’m in a severe financial strait, so I’d like my mommy/mistress to be rich or at least financially secure so she can support me and my needs. I won’t laze around, whatever work she gives me I’ll do it. I enjoy roleplay, specifically a boss who who spanks her underperforming employee in lieu of firing him, or a babysitter who likes to spank bad kids, but since the boy she’s sitting is well behaved, she offers to let him stay up late and eat junk food and watch mature movies and take him wherever he wants if he lets her roast his bum. I expect my spanker to keep my identity and our arrangement a secret; if she wants to film it she must hide our faces and if she wants to tell friends she must trust them not to expose me. If she wants others to spank me fine, but I’ll only be spanked by women. Any interested V.A Beach females should contact me at pljprime@aol.com or androclesstmatthew@gmail.com. We’ll have to meet at either your place or a hotel/inn because I don’t live alone and don’t want my mates to find out about me, though I am unmarried, childless, single, and want my disciplinarian to be the same. If they want my photo they can ask for it but must meet and talk to me before they get my phone number.
From what I have read (here and elsewhere online) do not dismiss the idea of being otk with an older female, by that I mean a senior lady. I know that there are a large number of men who think that the older the female disciplanarian is, the more erotic and the hotter the spanking is. Just an idea. Hope you find what you are looking for..........
Female spankers don't usually seek out play partners -- they have many volunteers. There are curious females that would like to be Female spankers.
Female spankers are mainly Lesbian or at best bi-sexual from a male point of view. Hetro females prefer to be spanked by a man, which if you actually think about it is only natural !
I've known four women that are quite expert spankers, not that I've played with all four. None of them advertised their interests, none of them were "pro's", all of them are quite easy going and they know what they like. They are also very well educated in the spanking arts.
It's a well written request but I think you're asking for a lot. I don't mean a lot of things that can't be found and done. Just a lot for one person. There are fetish sites where you'll find groups filled with people that could fit a lot of your criteria and you'd be best served to visit a group meeting in your area. Get to know them and get advice. I spank women. I've never spanked a man but it's not out something I would reject the thought of. I've been spanked by both genders and I really didn't think that a female spanker would have preferred spanking or being spanked by a male. I know women who happily paddle the bottom of men and who equally take the discipline on their own bottoms. And it's not always sexual. Yes, there's often nudity but the girl I spank the most takes her punishment and we rarely do much else although we frequently enjoy all kinds of sex when she's not being disciplined. Sometimes, yes....there is sex involved...mostly her giving me pleasure but not infrequently her receiving something. Usually after she gets a sore bottom. I think you have to actively seek what you want, don't just hope. Take a chance that someone you think would never consider it, just might. And prioritize what you want so that if you have to accept less than your ideal partner you can get as much of the important things as you can. Finally, you're looking for a PARTNER. So think of her in that way first. If not, she won't even give you a second thought. Just my .02
