The normals are constantly comparing me to my sister. They think she's the greatest thing since sliced bread. A friend of mine told me twice that he thinks I'm jealous of her and that she lives a beautiful life. My main squeeze said he thinks SHE's the nonconformist because she's celibate until marriage. To him the status quo is girls hooking up. To me the status quo is girls wanting to settle down, like the scores of girls who read The Rules and Steve Harvey's book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. I don't come across as full of myself I don't think. I don't judge people. I keep rumors to myself. Why the fuck can't people return the favor? And people are always pointing out that she has a career and property and saying I'm doing nothing with myself. It's not like I'm not working on it! At this point I think I would be glad if she had a midlife crisis and ran off to the Bunny Ranch. She says she wishes I were her best friend. She doesn't judge me. But people are liable to split us up because everytime I see her now I feel sickened.
So...you blame your sister because other people think she is doing so well and tell you about it? What does she have to do with what other people say? And she wants to be close...but you don't because you are jealous, and that is so sad. You also say you want her to have some crisis? You are the problem gal...it is you, not her.
I'm NOT jealous of her. I think she's boring and mindless. But I love her. And since she doesn't judge me, I won't judge her anymore. The other day she said she's proud of me. And no I wasn't blaming her. I was upset with people like you who point the finger at me and foment a sibling rivalry. You're shameless.
Someone needs to read to you what you wrote and you need to be honest with yourself. You claim to be upset with what other people say...but you seem to take it out on your sister. That makes sense, eh? She tells you she is proud of you and wants to be close....and you find her boring and mindless. Look inward young grasshopper.
What about the neighbors, what they gonna say Stop little sister, gettin' carried away Hey hey hey, look at little sister Hey hey hey hey, look at little sister
Hey little sister what have you done Hey little sister who's the only one Hey little sister who's your superman Hey little sister who's the one you want Hey little sister........ shotgun
Some people like to start a rift between family members although there is none to begin with. These types of people that don't come from loving families and see a closeness of other families will sometimes do this, unfortunately. In my case, I had a guy that tried to conjure up drama between my sister and I, and I told him bluntly that there is nothing he can do to break my family apart, and if you try you will fail miserably. Needless to say, he got mad and that was the end of that. The moral of the story, is let no 'man' (either gender) come between your family even if there is a rift. Never let it be known to outsiders...
I think I was under the umbrella of my sisters too when I was growing up but then again maybe not. I was always daddy's girl, tomboy.. but I do remember being asked to settle down and hit the books like my second oldest. She's done really well for herself and congrats but me? I preferred the social life. Don't get me wrong, I hit the books too, I've done alright for myself easy but I believe my mother wishes I was more like my other sisters although... I'm really the only one who matured up and moved out and set my life the way I wanted it set so I think that's maturity right there.
I'm kind of on the same boat as you, OP. But, it's not only because my mother thinks highly of my sister, while putting me down. She also thinks highly of my brother and still puts me down. I guess I'm a 'black sheep' to her, or her least favorite out of all her children. Parents are forced to love their kids, but not forced to like them, not forced to believe or think highly of them. That's up to the parent. So, I know she loves me, will run to the end of the world and back. I just don't think she likes me, thinks highly of me, believes in me. It is what is it, though. I'm not too bothered by it. Nor do I hold any animosity.
