living with/marrying a stoner? -- advice needed

This thread kinda struck me because I sound like the husband to be and never really thought that my missus might think certain things too. But then I thought this whole "cuddling and kissing before bed" is such a crock of shit, that's American romance movies for you and that shit don't happen in the real world every night. These movies always create unrealistic portrayals of what's romantic and what a "healthy" relationship is. Your husband to be sounds like me like I've mentioned which in my eyes at least isn't the worst thing, he enjoys a toke at night just to wind down the time before before bed and lose his mind in the numbing sensations away from the stress of every day life. Good on him, I applaud.

 

I love how you guys are responding to this decade old thread.

Wonder if OP and all the other respondents have become bigger pieces of shit in the last 9 years...

 

No. Often times people do change in relationships. Assuming that you can change someone is a mistake, but there is no requirement not to try to change someone.

If you have an expectation that someone is going to change, you should probably communicate that early on though.

 

"Married A Pothead" posted about her own marriage 8/17/14. She probably should have started her own thread. I think most of the replies have been to her.

 

Yes. The advance manipulation warning would be nice. I'm so over it that as soon as I see the signs, it's game over, which only hurts everyone involved. If I went out on a date with someone and she said, "I love everything about you except for xxxx", it could be ended or taken less seriously early on.

 

im tempted to say stfu and make him a sandwich! but im not gonna say that.....