Of course it empowers a woman ,makes them look sexy and sets the tone for the evening . I'm not a poke and go type guy so my preference is long romantic type evening . There is nothing more romantic than a lady looking resplendent in Lingerie and sharing a chilled bottle of wine in front of a log fire . My own preference is basques and stockings in my favourite colour of red
Leather works better is you play the role of the dominant in the bedroom especially black but red can work as well . You can also obtain a riding crop . You dont have to use it on your partner but it lets him know who is boss . A playful tap doesnt do anyone any harm anyway .. Most importantly dont be in any hurry for it to be on the bedroom floor. do everything on your terms and enjoy the power . This is one we have and its very sexy