Likeminded people

That's how I connect with most people.

 

I have little in common, as far as beliefs, with the people around me in real life. I share a few likes and dislikes with people I associate with now, but in thought, we are on different planets.

I find that I share more beliefs and/or attitudes with many of the members of hf than in real life. I have friends and family around a lot in real life but I'm much more lonely in real life than I am here in hf - even when I'm only reading what hf members are saying.

 

I find it hard. And I wish I didn't because I wish I knew more people around here with kids Cason's age but around here I don't...

I think for me I've had experiences just like you mentioned at the park and then I just don't put myself out there (join any mommy/kid groups, talk to people at library story times and stuff other than like "hi, how are you?" stuff... I'm sure I COULD find some I could relate to more if I'd try more..

 

Me, three...

 

I find it a billion times more difficult to relate to other mothers. I've always been the type of person that can get along with anyone if I bother to talk to them, but I haven't really been able to click with other moms. I just feel so different, not only in personality, interest, but on parenting style. I have one friend who's a mom, but she lives a couple of hours away, so we don't really see each other and her kid is in California with her dad every couple of months. Sophia made a friend and I've slowly been trying to become friends win his mom. She's nice, but if our kids hadn't become friends, we would never be friends.

I feel like there should be an okcupid for moms to get together lol

 

I very rarely relate to how other women parent their kids. They're either a push over or too harsh, permissive or uncompassionate, weak or authoritarian. The ones i really disrespect are those that teach materialism or one-upmanship. Ive ended about 3 friendships over it.

 

That would be awesome, it could match us on parenting style as well as musical interests, hobbies, the usual.

My son is still pretty little so I guess my parenting style isn't completely developed but I feel like I'm going to be much more laid back than most moms. Not really permissive, I am good at setting limits, but I don't let parenting stress me out like some moms I see. I try to have fun with it and keep a sense of humor.

I can see this. All of those things would bother me too to a certain extent.
I notice a lot of moms just aren't very nice to their kids; this is one thing I couldn't deal with in a friend

 

I have a few male musician friends that I get along with fairly well, other than that most of the men in my area are shallow as fuck. I hang out with women mostly. I can think of only one or two that I would call anything close to like-minded... and I don't mean we like the same things culturally or entertainment-wise or anything, just comfortable talking about lots of stuff and acting goofy or what-not if the notion strikes us.

It would make me very happy at this point in my life to have someone I could truely confide in.