I want to try some light BDSM with my boyfriend, but I'm not exactly sure what we should do other than tying up and blindfolding. We are both on the less creative side of the spectrum, so it makes it hard to come up with ideas. Help anyone? Emails welcome too
Hmm....... I like the LIGHT part, because I'm not a fan of heavy duty BDSM myself, lol. xD How about some mild spanking(something that doesn't really hurt)? Maybe also use like a whip, or something that can substitute for that too, to give it variety. You can also use a paddle, too. There are other things to consider as well. But DO play safe.
I'm not much into spanking. When I think about him doing that to me, all I can do is think I will laugh when it happens
I know what you meant. I mean to say that even just thinking about him spanking me during sex makes me chuckle haha And when we have sex, I definitely prefer to keep a passionate mood rather than a playful one
Haha, I see. Well, there's also the verbal aspect of the BDSM where the word choices may get a bit, well, "rough". And then there's the downright kinky side but I think you should take one step at a time, anyway. I mean, I talk like I know this shit but really I'm just as inexperienced as you are, lol. I just know what I want, and my girlfriend luckily is open-minded enough to try many of those things. besides, I just want to try the mild stuff, so I like the idea that I won't have to get my girl into any situation where she might end up feeling uncomfortable.
Play power games...power play is fun. There are these Velcro sheets you can buy that are really fun, and very very safe. face fucking is pretty awesome...that is all about control. pulling hair seems to be a very common favorite, as long as you do it right (grab low and firm at the base of the neck)..this can be done on men too, as long as their hair is long enough. dirty talk...including using praises/insults you would use on a dog. Any of those sound good to you?
I do like the ideas of talking dirty, hair pulling, face fucking, and hair pulling. We talk dirty over text anyway, so it shouldn't be too hard to do during sex, hopefully. Thanks for the ideas guys If you have any more, feel free to share
Maybe look into the mind fuck side, lots of teasing and tantalizing, but withholding the good stuff. Or blindfold and feed one partner ( see 9 1/2 Weeks)