I feel like I've been too complacent lately and have gotten into sort of a slacker groove. I'm mostly content though. I think I'm a free spirit who doesn't try to impress anyone. I'm also happy to be alone a lot, especially in nature. I wonder though: maybe a "normal" life is a life of struggle. Survival (of the fittest). Striving for "perfection." Some have said that I already struggle, like to remain non-conforming, to avoid being sacrificed to some group, most of all to retrain my brain against negative daydreaming, and that I'm so used to it I don't even notice it. I do productive things here and there like meet with a career coach and do her assignments, and I have lost a lot of weight, etc. I just feel like I could do more. I don't feel energetic. Maybe life isn't even about happiness. A professor told me that happiness is a 100 year old ideology. Maybe people who are almost always happy are also very lazy. What do you think?
Sounds more like you are content with life, which is not a crime at all. I only wish I had reached this point a decade or so ago. It would have saved me a lot of grief. However, I am quite content now. Being alone doesn't bother me at all, in fact, I find that I prefer it for long periods daily. It's like I get to be the one in the universe who sees the truth of it all. After all, are beetles and lady bugs ever depressed because they aren't at every party or social event? Lazy is just a social creation. Made by people who toil endlessly but feel jealous of those who choose not to. We are way beyond the Ant and the Grasshopper, but those who toil just love to use this canard to justify their judgements of others. The one thing to keep in mind is that we have to be able to survive in the world we find ourselves in. So existing in an endless state of leisure is not entirely practical either. We all age. And in the US that can be a real handicap if one doesn't prepare their thinking for this eventuality. Happiness is what you decide it should be. Just try to prepare yourself so you can be happy going forward. Otherwise life will slap you around horribly. Depend only on yourself.
I always seem to meet downers in my life that think life shouldn't be fun, life is a struggle and life should be hard. I try to dissociate myself from these people because with that mentality I may as blow my head off in my garage and leave my thought behind me on the wall. Fuck. That. For. A. Living. Instead I'll just have fun and not think too hard about the consequences. life's much more fun and interesting that way and at the end of the day, I could live hard, easily.. I could cure cancer and make it to Mars but I'm still going to die anyway, so I won't waste my precious years chasing those achievements.
Sometimes it is good to "slack"...allows you to rejuvenate. As you know....nothing ever stays the same, changes will come. Some will be marvelous...some will be struggles. Allow your mind and body to be lazy right now so they'll be ready for your next challenge. Stop over thinking. :daisy:
I remember reading an article that "happy" people are basically born that way...in that their brains are different than those that tend more toward depression. That being said, it doesn't sound like you are NOT happy...in fact you said initially you were content. Being productive varies from person to person, and I happen to think its often highly over-rated. Such as...my BIL is VERY "productive" in keeping a clean, meticulous house (like a museum, my brother says) and that kind of crap would drive me completely up the wall. I'm more interested in living in my house rather than worrying about where every single thing is every moment of the day. But, if you ever intend to accomplish anything, I do feel you will experience struggle. That's just the way it is.
Interesting topic. 'Happy' or 'sad' designations have much to do with brain chemistry, in the short-term, IMO. From what I've read, thoughts are chemical in nature in that a happy thought produces one chemical, which then causes more 'happy' thoughts by its very presence in brain chemistry. The reverse is also true for 'sad' or negative thoughts. You end up with a self-perpetuating loop. Which is one reason parents should be very careful about what sort of thoughts they are installing into their child's loop. It can become the 'voice in their head'. That being said, 'happiness' or 'sadness' is also a choice. If one chooses to be happy in the long term by deciding to think positive thoughts over and over again.. this then, becomes their new brain pattern. Sometimes the choice is thru gritted teeth... and may take a while to become automatic.. but it happens. Life is short. Impossible to convey that simple sentence to any person who is still young and 'bulletproof' in any way that is meaningful to youth. But: Being content is a lovely state of mind, full of grace. Being happy is also a lovely choice. Any other state of mind that leans toward the negative is a waste of precious time. Do you like your life in its current form? Cool! Go enjoy more of it. If not, change your life. You create it anew every day.
Ever wonder why you got to be born in America instead of the slums of India? "I was complaining about not having any shoes, then saw a man without feet." "All is vanity"-God... in the bible
And as for 'lazy'... I have lazy down to an art form. But... I can also have great energy to accomplish whatever I decide to do. Choices. Pretty cool.
Lazy is good. I am the same, I can be lazy, but can accomplish whatever is needed. It is a good balance for some.
I'm not lazy, just a procrastinator. "Nothing is so important that it won't be more important tomorrow."
And eletrolytes. Get some poweraid or gatoraid. Check your blood sugar levels, and then ask yourself about your caffeine intake. That can wipe you out in withdrawal.
