Libido differences between your partners

All my male partners always had a higher libido than me, but I was always receptive to getting them off whenever they wanted, even if I didn't get an orgasm out of it. However, all my female partners always had a lower libido than me, and I was often sexually frustrated when they didn't want to get me off.

I think when I transition (MTF, no vaginoplasty, possible orchiectomy), I'm wondering if it will affect how receptive I am to please a male partner. What if my male partner wants to get off, and I'm just not in the mood?

I think if I'm with a female partner, our libido's will be more in sync, and I won't have that sexual frustration (and neither will she).

I've had multiple relationships with female partners where sometimes I'd have sex once a month, sometimes once every other month. Love had a lot to do with it, but I was always sexually frustrated to no end!

On the other hand, I've had multiple relationships with male partners where it seemed all we did was have sex. As much as five times a day, almost every day (honestly, I don't know how some guys could do it, I can cum maybe 3 times in a day, at most). I didn't really enjoy those times, because my mouth, throat, and ass was always sore (which I can easily understand why most people wouldn't always please their partners).

How do you handle your libido differences between your partners?

 

Hello!

Libido was actually a huge reason why my ex and I divorced. She could go months without it. We would had sex an average of once a month. If I was lucky, I’d get twice a month.

I think communication is a big part of dealing with differences in libido. Your and your partner should find a middle ground. I can see taking one for the team and having sex once in a while to please your partner, but all day, 5 times a day!

I haven’t been with a guy since my 20’s and my libido was on overdrive then too. So I can’t comment on makes libidos because it’s been a while. However, take the time to find someone who matches sexually with you or comes close to it. If they love you, they will respect your body when you say no.

 

My mate had always had a wonderfully robust, unblushing, and joyous sex drive...until she suffered a severe concussion in a high-speed crash. It killed her sexuality like flipping a circuit breaker. The trauma also turbocharged what had previously been a relatively mild case of systemic Lupus, leaving her in severe chronic arthritic pain, perpetual nausea, and depression, none of which are conducive to sexual arousal. I don't pressure her sexually (it's literally hard enough just to get her to eat), but she's acutely aware that sexuality is a basic biologic need, and feels that she's failed as a mate. She encourages me to watch porn and jack off, but her preferred solution is to terminate the relationship so that I can go find a functional sexual partner, as if she was merely a broken, inoperable toy, and she can go terminate herself unhindered.
I respectfully but firmly decline her offer.