Letting my boyfriend fuck some random chick

^ That's actually a good idea.

 

Right. There is something weird going on here.

It is also noteworthy that virginity is some kind of status goal, rather than something that just happens spontaenously because she's not yet ready.

There is also a gender dynamic at work here, since boys GAIN in social status by losing their virginity.

That's the trouble with attributing value-judgements to virginity and sex.

 

youre smart.

 

Another bit of sound advice from undies. :cheers2:

 

Well, I kinda really want him to because I don't think I wanna date him anymore. I kinda like a bunch of other people

 

Well, then, I think you already know your answer.

 

theeeeeere we go. and the last piece of the puzzle is put into place.

what happened to you totally love him?

do yourselves a favour, and just cut the relationship ties. its only fair. be honest.

 

Bingo!

That's what all of this was sounding like to me.

BE HONEST WITH THE POOR GUY!

 

yup, i remember now. this is the guy you are pity-dating and don't have the balls to break up with. you really should dump him and quit leading him on.

 

You man-eating heartcrusher!

 

nooo, she posted a thread about this guy nick and the guy she really likes, sharkboy, a while back.... i'm really a nice girl

 

Well if praxis,zilla cate and KR all agree It must be good advice. Dump him,quit leading him on.Hope he gets some from the next girl

 

yeah, i read through the thread, you dont even really want to date him? dump the guy.

 

have you tried meeting other guys who have the same goals as you? maybe if you met someone who wants to wait to have sex, then your more likly to have a better relationship. if your boyfriend really loves you, he will wait.

 

Why would you let your guy fuck someone else?

I mean, what's your rationalization on that?

 

I do love him, just not romantically.
I don't know man. He's a great kid, I feel safe with him, I don't want to break up with him again just to possible date some other people. Iono. I think I might just be crazy.

 

I don't want him to get totally pissed off cause I wont give him any.

 

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crazy...possibly....
most likely it's the fact that you're 15 and have a lot of adventures to go on before you settle down and commit yourself to one person.

If you don't love him romantically than you're wasting both your and his time.
Learn to be comfortable by yourself before looking for safety in another person....

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Hahahaha. That's something you can't control. It would be nice if we could control other people's reactions to our decisions, but that's not how life works my dear.

I think you should be happy that you won't have sex until you know that you're ready. It's a smarter choice than what most of your peers are doing.

 

There is love which isn't romantic. It's called friendship.

But in all seriousness, flannel- do you feel he loves you in the same way you love him? I am not getting that from your posts.

Unrequited love is not love, it's dependency.