"Letting Go and Letting Love: Navigating the Fear of Death

Hey groovy people,

I've been feeling some serious fear about death lately and I just can't shake it. I know it's all part of the circle of life and all that, but I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around it. Can you all help a fellow flower child out? I could really use some guidance and positive vibes to help me overcome this fear.

One love, peace and light. ✌️

 

Many folks are now trying various psychedelics to be able to cope with their fears and issues like PTSD. They are now legal in places like Oregon.

If you're an original flower child, you may have tried some before, you might revisit if you had positive experiences. If you haven't tried them you can consult with therapists who use them.

Of course the are other ways to come to terms with death. Many find solace in religion.

I find cannabis helps to not worry about things beyond my control.

Have you had a recent death to deal with?

 

It can be quite an overwhelming sensation. "The fear" can sometimes attack me in the middle of the night when the guards are down. I will give my own perspective on fear of death. I am not fearful of non existence as there will be no self to have any concern about existence/non existence.

I worry from time to time about dealing with illness and coping with illness, especially if I was on my own at such a time. Though any of these may never happen of course.

I am a bit more concerned about drawn out suffering, that scares me the most.

You are in Norway, an extremely wealthy country so arguably they will have the best palliative/hospital/health care system of any western country
so that put you most probably in the best case scenario on the planet. That may alleviate you fears a little I would have thought ?

I will say this, you are in control of what is inside your mind, sometimes there is no problem to simply block it and not allow it to have access to your mind. You can do this in a very direct way by saying internally I am NOT allowing those thoughts into my mind now. That might be enough. And you can distract yourself as well.. simply close your eyes and breathe normally and mentally follow a breath in through the nose to the bottom of your lungs and a breath out nice and slowly through the mouth and keep attention to the motion of the air passing out. Do this for 1 minute, then 2 mins if you need then 3 and so on as you need. If negative thoughts come into your mind, not just fears, simply acknowledge them briefly and then keep turning your attention back to your gentle breathing.

Use your strong natural power of attention and focus on your gentle breath flowing in and out to overpower the thoughts ability to invade your mind.

For panic attacks, which I have had in the past but have very infrequently now since I meditate everyday. You can arrest it with a mixer size (150mL) can of coca cola. The very moment you feel that horrid sensation do NOT delay.

Not all will like or think that drink is any good but they have a long shelf life and do the trick for me. They blast the system with a dose of sugar and also soothe the stomach which is often turning over/nausea when you have the fear of some kind. And I also just do the breathing and almost all of the time those 2 tricks get me back on track. Just having the small cans of coca cola sitting there and knowing they are there mostly stops any such feelings creeping to any kind of panic attack state.

Every single one of us has that as our currently known end destination, it is 100pct natural and the universe has taken care of dead people for aeons. That may not be a comfort to you personally but do not worry about non existence it will 100pct take care of itself without any inputs from yourself.

Maybe you worry about others around you , maybe it is a time to go through your affairs and have some basic organization surrounding your property/assets and things you may want to say to others. It may be a tricky yet practical way to reduce anxiety. If it is born from such issues.

None of us want to be hit by a car or bus or be in an accident but it could happen and it would mean worry was for nothing.

 

I have encountered loss in various forms, from the passing of beloved pets to hearing about the deaths of acquaintances. While I have never experienced traditional strong feelings of sadness or grief, the concept of death does manifest itself in my mind in unexpected ways, leading to the fear of death when my mind wanders to thoughts of fast-tracking my journey to the other side, like leaping off a bridge.

 

With all due respect it is time to probably seek some help with those thoughts from a professional Councillor or Dr. I would not delay. All the best to you.

 

Good advice! There are numbers you can call for free that can help. I too think Norway has all the resources to help.

Also try one of those sun lamps if you're in Norway. You may have SAD, from not enough sunlight. Exercise, even walking can change your mood. Maybe go to a mall and see some happy people.

Your can live in the past or worry about a future that might never happen. Living in the moment has great rewards.

 

If I am, then death is not. If death is, then I am not. — Epicurus

What is there to add? When we die, we do not reach a lower plane of existence from which we can regret that we are no longer living on the higher plane of existence. We cease to exist as a living being. We decay and soon we exist only in the memories of others. At its core, life is also about dealing with loss. Only those who have successfully come to terms with death can be called adults. The sight of real corpses is helpful; pictures of mutilated bodies in Telegram channels can also improve our understanding of the short time of our existence.

Whatever you do, do it wisely, with an eye to the end. — Anonym