Let's talk standards

This thread was inspired by something I read in another thread pertaining to standards, particularly those pertaining to men with regard to women and sex. It's been said that men will "stick their dicks in almost anything." While I have found this to be true with a lot of men, I can say that doesn't hold true with me. In order for me to have sex with a woman, there has to be some physical attraction. I find masturbating to attractive women preferable to sex with a woman who is not attractive, yet for many men it would seem that pussy is pussy and that you should take what you can get. For me, I would rather go without than have sex with a woman I find unattractive.

So what is your take on this?

 

attraction comes with personality.. weight and looks are semi important ..
obese women with mole face, probably not going to get the bone..
full figured, pretty face girl.. lets fuck..

 

I agree with the personality attributing to an attraction. I've known ugly girls but after getting to know them and learning how individually cool they really were inside I ended up being attracted to them. I've also known some bomb shell babes with cunts of personalities which attributed to me not finding them very attractive at all.

That aside, any hole is a goal and I don't take offence to that approach either. It's personally not for me but hey in the future who knows how I'll feel.

 

I second that emotion...:2thumbsup:

 

There are women I love as people. They are my friends, but I don't think I could bring myself to have sex with them. I find it very hard these days to find women my age who I find physically attractive enough to have sex with. I'm not saying there aren't gorgeous women in their 30s, but that number becomes increasingly fewer and far between with age. I tend to hook up more with women in their 20s, whom I have nothing in common with, whereas the women that I connect with on a personal level are more around my age, but I have no interest in them sexually (usually but not always).

 

Maybe your preferences will change. I was into young girls too but somewhere a few years ago I started becoming attracted to mid 30s office type ladies probably because I worked in an office. Now I'm attracted to wives and secretary types.

 

I heard about a place once.....where there was some sort of wall, and just peep holes that showed the holes....so there was no seeing the person men stuck their penises into...just the hole.....I always remembered being told of that. ugh....
I do not think that all men are pigs, though....and just think with that brain....not all of them.....

 

I am on the side of orison and gongshaman.
I've been with big girls, skinny girls and girls in between. some were bitch-cunts, some were awesome friends, size and appearance had little to do with it.


Hmmmmm, I wonder if it could have anything to do with us three being almost twice PR's age and have all been in long term serious relationships?????
I wonder........


age and experience have the tendency to temper one's opinion's on matters such as this.
In time you will understand, young PR.:mickey:


I did get lucky and married a hotty though.

 

@Moonglow

Yeah they're glory holes I think haha.

I just read an article on Facebook where an experiment was taken with the same girl on two profiles. One profile was modest and not revealing, her other profile she slutted herself up. A group of women were asked to rate the two profiles. The modest profile received all positive results and suggested the non slutted up profile was genuine, more pretty and friendly while the other was after negative attention.

Conclusion was: sexy photographs on Facebook end up having a negative vibe to a high percentage of other women.

Rofl.

While I agree, I'd like to see the results of a group of men and not women.

 

I hope you realize how absolutely shallow and superficial this makes you appear.
I appreciate the honesty, just sayin'.....

 

Oh, is that what they are called....I am disgusted here, but laughing . I cannot believe I repeated that...well, out of the dark recesses of my mind now....lol

 

I find them particularly disgraceful myself. The city I live in, there are apparently quite a few spots mainly targeted to gay men. I hear some dudes go into the cube just to suck other guys off. The gay community doesn't gain my respect with that attitude. As if you'd suck a guy off through a hole unprotected.

 

Never, ever will I go into a glory hole spot.
I saw the episode of NYPD Blue where the guy was cutting cocks off with a straight razor.
no thank you, I'll keep my Johnson and do the old "hand jive" if I feel the need.

 

For me, emotional bond/connection must be there. I can't see myself just perceiving sex being just sex regardless of who you share it with. In fact, to me even masturbation is more intense and meaningful when my partner gets into the picture(hmm, was that a pun? lol).

But I see this whole thing more in terms of what you're after, what you focus on, that sort of thing. If your focus is on being with the right partner, developing and nurturing emotional and spiritual connections, and being happy in that relationship, then sex becomes just one aspect(can be an important aspect but certainly not the only one) in the relationship. But if your focus is on sex, then that's where you mainly concentrate your efforts on, therefore you might miss various things, beautiful things and devastating things alike, that are going on outside the sexual side of the things. That to me isn't an ideal relationship, though, if there are people who can make such relationships work then more power to them.

My focus is to nurture a loving relationship that is emotionally and spiritually rich, harmonious, and thriving. And it is for this reason that I have turned down the chance to make love to one of my past girlfriends. After a couple years of being in that relationship, I had developed this doubt within me in terms of where the relationship would go. So, I did what I believed(and still believe) to be an honourable thing when she expressed that she was finally starting to feel like she was ready for it; rather than having sex with her then breaking up which might have resulted in her thinking I only did that so I could get my rocks of before the relationship ended, I decided to wait until both of us were really ready. Because at that moment, I had become the one not ready for it. And then that was that. We made our breakup official the following year, and both came out of the relationship still being virgins.

Fourteen years later, I'm currently in the best relationship(albeit long distance) that I've ever been in, with somebody who I connect with on a level I've never experienced before. Amazing compatibility. The fact that she's gorgeous certainly is a big plus, too. xD But the main thing is that the whole idea of having her as my partner just feels so natural, it feels like it all fits. At this point in my life, I can't imagine myself settling for something less than this, because this is what I've wanted all along but couldn't fully experience before I met her. Honestly, at one point I almost considered actually LOWERING my standards 'cause I thought maybe mine were to high, but then BOOM! There she is, and now the girl's just raised the bar way up there where my standards are concerned, lol.

 

I rarely find someone attractive until I understand their personality. Chemistry is everything, regardless of physical appearance, IMO. What about women in their 30's in unattractive?

 

i like people who are satisfied and comfortable in their own skin

 

Agree with this!

 

Same, this is actually the most attractive quality to me in the opposite sex

 

And this.

 

I'll go ahead and third this.