let's talk about me now.....

I think faelix came pretty close but I have been wrong before... I think you know what I think of you. If you do not it is by your own fault...

 

thats the tricky thing about a forum isn't it?! you dont get to see a person as a whole therefore distorting your perception of them...

I have a pretty good idea what you think of me

 

I think you're so gorgeous I could just shit!

 

How is that any different from real life? I don't think it is at all...

 

how isnt it?

i must be retarded because without eye contact, body language, and face to face "vibing" i think its damn near impossible to really read a person.

its different because we type out a few choppy sentences in response to someone else's half thoughts...real life, there is generally flowing natural conversation , i dont really feel that there is that much "natural" conversation here.


*shrugs*

 

My humor falls flat online because you can't see my face or hear the tone in my voice.

 

I find that most conversation is not natural at all... Sure it is easier to see if somebody is full of shit if you can see them and hear their voice, but really most people make their decision on somebody in less than a minute... The rest is just small talk.

I know usually as I'm shaking somebodys hand what I think of them if not right after... Doesn't mean I don't change that thought if I'm wrong, but I think that falls in with your original comment to me... I also do not think I am alone in my methods...

 

I get impressions about a person right away yes, but I try to reserve judgment until I've really gotten to know them in a variety of situations...I think its a very common mistake to assume you know a person from a few short words upon meeting, yes you can tell a few key things but you certainly cant be sure in an awkwardly pressured situation such as first time meeting.


I cant agree that most conversation is unnatural, I actually dont even know what you mean by that....in what situations are you referring to?

 

Parties, get togethers, dates...

People usually speak with an agenda opposed to a purpose... They want to be funny...smart..interesting... or they want something... attention, sex etc...

They regurgitate shit from news, books, and movies or re tell some "interesting" fact that was told to them earlier that day...

Most of the time when I'm just chatting I feel it is so contrived... And I'm guilty of it too, I'm just sayin'...

 

chatting is quite shallow at times yes and I often feel its forced, actual talking though on deeper levels can feel quite natural...the situations you mention aren't really that natural, they are structured to highlight your social skills or lack of....once you've gotten to know a person(in more intimate settings) it goes way beyond that small fraction of who they are.

 

Add me, biatch....

I feel you, but really once you know somebody well enough it's usually just small talk from there

 

I like yooou.

 

I don't know as much about other regions, but most people in the American South are extremely fake IRL. Honesty is quite rare. The internet is about the only place I will say what I really think, because of pressure to conform IRL. I think it is worse here than in other parts of the US.

I wish more people had that policy. I don't think first impressions are accurate.

 

Or the fear of judgement... but yeah, I get you... I see it all the time

 

That's another way to put it. Yeah, they will treat you bad down here if you don't play along with their game.

Two days ago, my dentist had on the Fox News Channel while I was waiting for him to start on a filling. The man was about to put a bunch of sharp instruments in my mouth. You bet your sweet ass I agreed with his nutty right-wing views!

Granted, that is an extreme example, but the pressure comes from every direction, all the time. Like, if you live in a nice neighborhood but people think you might be into a "freaky" (anything other than christian) religion, they will tell their kids to stay away from you, for "safety" reasons.

If you want to be treated well, you tell people what they want to hear, or you say nothing at all. Most of the time, the battles are not worth fighting because you can't win.

I shouldn't say it's all of the South, because New Orleans is not that way at all.

But we should get back to MJB, since this thread is supposed to be all about her. You know what would be funny? A video of MJB on a trip through the South, locking horns with all the opinionated, uptight bitches down here. Can you imagine it?

 

I was going to say something sweet, but then you said "I smell bad, need to take a shower"....
So...

 

I worship the very ground you walk on.

 

I don't think I'm very different in real life.. I'm actually too natural all the time.. and I guess I sound the same as I write too, because I tend to just type as I think, which must sound confusing sometimes.

But I can't really speak for other people.. I mean some HF members know me personally - if they were still here, they could probably attest to what I just said, or add something I can't see.

As far as conversation goes - about it being unnatural most of the time, I think it's very true for most people - that is people who don't think much and are trying to conform, as well as people who on the contrary think way too much and over-analyze all their conversations.. Usually I have extremely deep convos about stuff most people don't talk about.. don't even *think* about.. and if it's "small talk" it doesn't take much for me to start speaking everything that's on my mind - which can be scary - or I just don't talk - I can actually be very reserved and cold.. but I don't think there's a middle ground for me. It's either I talk very naturally or I don't talk and people think I'm either anti-social or mean.

 

i think the blaze is alright. seems cool enough.

 

I think you're crazy for wanting to go to the army.

But I like you and I hope you don't get stuck being shouted at or in a cruddy job.

I agree.

Your perception of me was pretty good though.

Same here! :cheers2: