I recently starting dating a girl who I really like but the thing is I have a very embarrassing fetish and I don't know if I should tell her about it or how I would bring it up. Any advice would be very helpful thanks
If you only recently started dating then I wouldn't bring it up yet.. Once things start getting more serious and you 2 start talking about more intimate stuff maybe just ease into the topic.
Is it a Cleveland Steamer fetish? There is no delicate way to bring that up, you just got to drop trow and let it go. You'll know right away if she's into it.
I wouldn't bring it up just yet if it's still early on. I have kinks I haven't told my boyfriend about, and we've been together for a few months now. Only bring it up at an opportune time when you both feel comfortable. I relate my likes and dislikes to my boyfriend gradually, whenever it comes up in conversation. That's how you do it. Just take it slow and steady! Enjoy the pace you're at right now. You'll need something to mix it up later, anyway.
Knowing when to broach the subject of your fetishes is always a difficult one ... but why do you describe it as an "embarrassing" fetish?? I don't think any of us would want our fetishes to be known to people who don't understand kink - so in that sense they're all embarrassing. But to people who DO understand kink, there's no need to eb embarrassed by any fetish. OK, so your kink may not be my kink ... but we should all try to understand one another. So my major kink is desperation and wetting ... I dont' think of it as an "embarrassing" fetish, though ... just one that a lot of folks don't understand. What's yours??
I mean, if you want to wait a little while longer to tell her that is fine. You essentially want to find out if she will stay with you in spite of you having some crazy fetish. Even if I really liked a girl, I would want to find out if she could possibly be "the one" for me in the future If she's someone who would stay with me, or abandon me. Maybe I'm just very meticulous. It depends on what the fetish is. I mean, no fetish is that crazy. ...Right?...
don't ever feel embarrassed by a fetish, everyone is weird, particularly in bed. feel good and confident about it, and she will feel the same when you tell her about it. if she's got issue with it, it will be because of some insecurity or hers. just be ready to handle an initial bad reaction from her. but keep talking about your "fetish" as if it's good and normal and she will start to feel the same.
Once you've ascertained that it is a relationship, I think you need to be open. Nothing destroys a relationship like lack of trust. Tell her and then it's up to her. These days, with so much porn, kinks are not a dark secret. Everyone is aware of them. It may or maybe not to her liking, but don't be ashamed of your fetish.
