Hey ladies just wondering what your take is on Fuck buddies, ie "friends with benefits". I was with my girlfriend for about 6 months and we recently broke up, my choice. So anyway we have decided to remain bed buddies because our sexual chemistry is AMAZING!!! Best sex of my life. I know she is still in love with me. Has anyone had any experiences with fb's, do you think it can work or are we headed for heartbreak and just delaying the inevitable??? Xxx
I know how you feel. I'm the same age and only recently have been identifying myself as a lesbian. How I knew? I realized how much I was faking it with guys how when I really thought about it they weren't really all that attractive. They never drove me as crazy as women. Little by little men became nothing but eye candy. Now I will look at a guy and say "aww hes hot" but talk about me sleeping with him and there is nothing going down south. However for some odd reason yaoi turns me on...
Hello ladies, I only signed up for this forum today. So let me introduce myself first. I am 17 years old, over a year ago I had my first crush on a girl, I stuck to the idea of being straight but yet able to be sexually attracted to girls, untill about 5 months ago I met this girl, and fell head over heels in love with her. We are dating for 4 months now, and we took stuff pretty slow. She is only 14 and we were both pretty new with girls, she has had some girlfriends before, but with them she never went anywhere beyond kissing. Now since about a month we are sexually active, we tried some stuff but we're both still really clumsy with things. Last night she stayed over at my place and we fingered each other and tried oral sex. However, as far as I could observe I didn't manage to give her an orgasm. Do you guys have any tips for me how to improve my fingering or oral sex? I never managed to give myself an orgasm either and last night she gave me my first one. What do I do?
In my opinions fuck buddies are fine, but only if both parties have no feelings whatsoever for each other. Which obviously is not the case for you guys. You will most likely cause her loads and loads of pain this way.
Ok girls...so me and my gf have been together for a year and a half and moved in together about a year ago. Our sex is amazing and of course at first we had sex a million times a day and now our sex life is dying down. I know it always starts crazy but i worry she's not as attracted to me anymore or something. When we do ha e sex its still amazing and i've talked to her about it and she swears its nothing, every other aspect of our relationship is amazing. Am i righrightright to worry or just horny and over reacting?? Haha
Hey all! Im Sarah! I need to know how to break off a relationship with someone. The person who I am in a relationship has lied to me more than once about money and only after did I agree to an engagement when the truth come out. I am so hurt and I am having a very hard time being able to forgive. I dont think I should settle because there are far more women out there who believe that honesty is very important in a relationship. I am on the right in this photo! Please help!
I think you have to just "do you." Lol, if that makes any sense. Figure out what makes you happy and what you want. We have all had that confusing time in our lives but it gets better. That probably didn't really help at all... But I tried.
I have a few questions. 1) This is more of a venting than a question. I've never considered dating girls, although I admired them greatly, until this one girl started flirting with me. I flirted back, and we ended up dating for a few months. Now, when people ask me if I'm bi or lesbian, I don't know what to tell them. Actually....I want to tell them I'm full-out lesbian. I mean, the idea of a penis just does NOT appeal to me. But, well, I have to pretend for my family that I'm just "going through a phase" since we're religious and it's a huge sin. Basically, I live two lives and it hurts. I do know, though, that I don't want to give up girls. 2) This is the only question I have, really. There is this girl who I've dated for a few months. She was my first girlfriend, and she left her girlfriend at the time to be with me. She's been an out lesbian since 3 years ago. We fell in love, but ended things after time due to a few problems (her wanting to go into the military eventually and my dislike of the military to name one of the smaller problems). However, we kept acting like we were together. We talked on the phone for hours and said I love you to each other and made out and all sorts of things. We got close to sex a few times, but Fate never allowed it. Now, she is back with the girl she broke up with to be with me. She seems happy enough with her. However, she still says she loves me and we still make out and have our phone calls and whatnot (we hardly talk in person due to her girlfriend). I keep holding on to the chance of us maybe getting back together, even though she told me she doubts she will ever break up with this girl simply because she doesn't know how to not be with her (not counting the time in between them dating where I came into the picture, they've been together over a year). My friends keep telling me to let go, that it's pointless holding on. And, I admit, I'm something like the girl on the side....except she actually still loves me and misses me. Hell, she read me the most heart-touching sweet letter she "had to write for a friend to give to his girlfriend" and said it was more true of me than of her actual girlfriend. I get the feeling she might love me more.....or something. Should I let go and stop being the girl on the side, or should I continue? It doesn't bother me. In fact, so long as I get to share a few moments with her, get to kiss her candy-sweet lips, get to feel her touch and hear her voice, then I'm content with my situation. But.....is that alright? Especially since she's cheating on her girlfriend?
Typically, I don't post on forums. I guess because I'm not complete comfortable with myself yet. It's my first time to be with anyone, and the woman I'm with I love more than life itself. She's been my best friend for many, many, many years. But...I have a question. And if you could see me I'd be blushing, because I'm very shy about these things, but... My girlfriend is VERY good in bed. Focusing on me that is. But when it comes to her, she's SO ticklish that I can't touch her anywhere. Not her face, her body, her hair. NOTHING. And I completely adore her. But I feel completely inadequate and entirely useless that I can't give her the same satisfaction that she gives me. In the end, it makes me shy away from sex, because I'm afraid I'll never be able to please her. And though we've discussed it, there isn't really anything we've found to do about it, though we've tried several things. I'm...not sure what to do, but I was thinking maybe someone here had gone through the same thing, and had some advice. If not, that's okay too. But I just thought I'd ask. Thanks so much. - Gypsy
And to GamingGal: I too am from a religious family. Because of the health state of certain family members, I cannot disclose to them that I am in a relationship. However, my girlfriend and I have taken a unique approach to our relationship, and you may want to consider it for yourself. I do not know what faith you are, but I am a non-denominational Christian. Most people sit back and say, You can't be gay and a Christian. I say that they can't tell me what to do. Instead, my girlfriend and I have decided to pray about it and listen carefully to whatever God is telling us to do. Regardless of the decision we will always be best friends. Nothing truly could change that. Your choices are between you and God (or whomever you follow, but that's a discussion for a different time and date, if ever). If it is what you want for your life, and you find that it is not wrong, then be proud of who you are. If you find that to you it is wrong, ask the one who guides you to change you in order to reflect your belief. It can and will happen. And if that is what you find, just remember, no one was ever won by judging others. Only by love. And to address the second, my advice to you is this, after seeing it happen so much. If they cheat once, the likelihood will be that they may very cheat again. On you. Are you prepared for this? Also, it seems like the girl is 'playing the field' so to speak. She misses things she enjoyed with you, but prefers the girl she is dating. Find someone who loves you down to your very soul for yourself, and let the girl that's playing the field stay on the shelf. You owe it to yourself to be good to yourself. Find the perfect one for you. As my girlfriend says, she is the one person that I can be completely honest with, and that she can be completely honest with me. This girl isn't being totally honest with you, I don't feel. Take care of yourself, hun.
NEED ADVICE! so im straight but ive always been a little curious about girls. ive been best friends with this girl since third grade and she knows everything about me, except that im kina into her. she never really tallks about sex but sometimes shell do something suggestive to me like push me on a bed and go ohhhaa but then she just laughs and i know shes joking. shes beauttiful and if i was into girls def my type. i dont want her to be my gf but i wanna fool around and explore sexually with her. any advice on how to make this happen?
If you want to keep the friendship my advice is don't, unless she's verbal says she wants to do something with you, I been in that position and I lost a friendship because of that.
So I want to make love to my girlfriend with our strap on and we've used it before but I'm still not sure how exactly to move my hips to do it properly and give her the most pleasure... Any tips??
Ok so I'm in serious need for some advice.... There's this girl I met on connexion. She's smart, beautiful, and all around amazing. She added me because she's pretty much down the street from me. We were talking and getting to know each other through facebook and skype and then we met up in person. Of course me being really shy and the fact that we hung out poolside I could barely talk and def had to fight my nerves to keep food down. Nothing happened that day but one night she wanted to come over to see me in my uniform because I'm in the military. We were just hanging out watching youtube videos and stuff and she kept getting closer and closer. We ended up making out. She's the first girl I've ever kissed but she warned me to not get too attached since she's not really into committed relationships and she doesn't want to end up hurting me. But she's trying to take it slow with me because I've actually been through a lot and I have a bad history with relationships anyway. We've seen each other a few times after that, slowly it gets a little more intense. She seems really into me but because I have less than 0 self confidence and I'm very insecure I keep having doubts. Like when she says I'm pretty the only thing I think of is that she's lieing. She recently got into a bad accident that really freaked her out and I've been so worried about her but I don't know what I can do or say to make her feel better. I feel like we're becoming more and more distant and it might be my fault cause I'm so insecure about us. Whenever I'm around her I'm so happy and when I'm not I can't get her out of my head. I don't know what to do. I feel like she's completely out of my league. I'm afraid that she might start thinking I'm too clingy if I say things like I miss you or that I want to see you. So I always let her say it first. I'm afraid of scaring her away because she'll think I'm weird or something. I've never felt like this for someone before. I don't understand it. And I'm just so confused.
And no I'm not straight and only became interested in her because she came on to me. I've always been into girls just never had the chance to be with one before.
OMG, you are just like my ex. The problem of you being insecure and having no confidence is affecting the relationship you have with her. When she tells you that your pretty you have to belieeve it or she wouldnt be saying it. I will alsways tell my ex that she's beautiful and she will do the same thing that you were doing. This kind of make me wonder about her, and probably the girl that you are seeing is probably doing the same. Do not think this way, she's see something about you that she likes. If you start thinking this way you miss out on the whole "lovey dovey stuff". My ex girlfriend thought the same way you did, and for me this drove me crazy because from my point of view it makes her(you) seem like you are unemotional, or don't show any affection. When you always wait for her to say something first, you make her feel that you are not interested in her, the same way I felt. I understand that this is your first time, and your shy, but you have to step up and take the advantage that you have with her. If out of the blue you want to text her, you should do it. If you feel like expressing your feelings with her, then do it. this shows that you are interested in her. My ex was too shy to tell me these things, which me felt uncertain about the relationship we have. If you don't want to push her away then start showing some affection and don't wait for her to talk to you first.
Don't do that. I was so in love with a girl and I felt the same way you do. At the end of our relationship she told me all she ever wanted was for me to open up to her and tell her things like "I miss you.", "I want to see you." and "I love you." without her having to say it first.
Hi girls, I need your advice, BADLY. There is a long story to follow so get yourself comfy... Firstly, I came out only recentely as I've just finished a 3 year relationship with a guy. During that time I was flirting with girls and playing with possibilities of being with one but it never got seriously to it until about 3 months ago when I started seeing this girl. At first, none of us mentioned anything about relationship, we were just enjoying each other company and exploring things. But as the time passed, it turned out it's not gonna be an easy one. The girl is 6 years older than me and actually doesn't have much more sexual experience than me, she slept with only two girls before. The main reason for it is that I am pretty much out and proud and she's sort of in the closet, none of her friends know about her orientation, not mention the family. While I'm trying to be supportive and help her with things, I feel like she might be pulling me a bit too much. At one point she mentioned she would like me to be her girl but I kinda panicked and suggested we should wait a little longer until I know I'm definitely over the past relationship. She said ok and that she will wait for me. However, a few days after I met my ex, we had a good long conversation and I realised that this is it, I don't regret anything and I'm happy with the direction the things are going. So just a week after that, I told the girl that I'm ready for a relationship and that this is what I want. To which then she started to be cautious instead. She said that she didn't realise she's not ready for it, that she's always been independent and she's never had a gf before either and it's a bit too much to take. She also expressed some doubts over my quick change of decision which I completely understand but I'm pretty certain of my feelings. So I said it's ok, now I can wait for her instead. However, I found out she met this other girl some other night and she lied to me about it, saying she went to her friend's birthday party. I didn't take much notice to it, in the end we weren't in a relationship yet and that could have been anyone. Soon though we spoke about us again and she said she wants to be with me and let's start a relationship but I should go easy on her as she doesn't want it to be too heavy. I was really happy about it, seeing that this is a lot of progress for someone who is in the closet. Not too long, barely a week after, I spent an evening with her and she was receiving a lot of texts to which she was smirking like a teenage girl... At the end of the evening she asked me if I'm alright that we aren't an item yet. I was really surprised, I told her that I wasn't aware of it and thought we were in a relationship. She explained she wasn't ready yet and since those are her first attempts in coming out, she wants to explore things a little. When I pushed her a bit more, she said she's been flirting with girls and she doesn't want to feel guilty about it and she's never been in a position to do things like that because she's been shy. She said there wasn't anyone else though yet and I made her promise that she will tell me straight away if there was, even if just sex. She added though that she doesn't want anything to change between the two of us, she wants to make sure that she's with me because of ME and not because I'm a girl. She wants me to be sure of my feelings too. If she's in for a relationship, she wants to make sure I won't hurt her and that this is a relationship for life. She wants me to wait for her becuase she thinks we will be together in the end, she ust needs a bit more time. She was also saying that if we finally get together, she wants it to be a serious commitment, she would introduce me to her family and things like that. And while this is all good and I agreed to it as I want to give her as much support as she needs, I'm a bit confused on the whole matter. I realise we've taken things too quickly and I can't blame her for her actions, I'm also hurt because this is NOT how a relationship starts. No matter what, if a person wants to be a part of your life, they will do anything to be part of it! And if she's flirting with other girls, surely I'm not the one for her? While I know I want to be with her, it scares me a bit that she was saying about a relationship for life and that's not something I wouldn't like but I ust don't think that far, for all I know, I want to be with her at the moment. But that's not the main issue. The thing is that we spend a lot of time together, we see each other nearly every day, I stay over at her place at least once a week, we plan going to places together and things like that. I feel I would do everything for her and I certainely feel she would do a lot for me and that we're happy in each others' company. It FEELS like a relationship and, like she said before, she doesn't want to change it. However , I can't help thinking of her seeing other girls! Sometimes she feels a bit distant and in moments like that I KNOW she's not there for me and it HURTS so much! I realise I'm falling for her more and more and she knows that too and the whole not-being-in-a-relationship-but-acting-like-in-one just makes everything worse. I've been in a situation like that before and we just grew to hate each other because of the jealousy,even though nothing happened. This time I'm even more involved and she's actually actively looking for thrills. I did suggest that we should take a break from each other in that case but she pushed that thought away. Today I checked her mobile (for a perfectly valid reason) and I noticed a text (from the girl she supposedly DIDN'T meet on that night before) right on the top of inbox and my heart just sank. This girl texted my girl stuff like 'I want you so much!'. I didn't think things would get that heavy. I admit I couldn't resist and checked the other messages, turns out I shouldn't. I've learnt that they are meeting tonight and that girl has been texting my girl for a long time now with messages like that and even though my girl wasn't replying to her so amorously, she was definitely encouraging it! I know that, because she's shy, she would welcome anyone who would be inviting her so openly because then at least she's sure of the intentions. She also has a high sex drive so I'm pretty sure what's going to happen tonight!!!! And this feeling makes me horribly sick, I'm literally in bed, not being able to move because of the pain! I thought I could do it but turns out I can't and I actually feel used even though I agreed to the whole thing. It hurts even more that she went out with this girl twice now (and will definitely have sex with her by tonight!), yet she's never gone out with me even once. All the time we meet at her house and that's it, I've tried numerous times to take her out or invite her to come to see me in town but she's always had some excuses in hand but not with this girl. I have no idea what to do now, do I let her know that I actually know or wait until she tells me??? (IF she tells me, which is what I expect as we agreed on telling each other about sexual partners in case of deseases etc) I want to be with her and I'm lured by the hope that if we actually start this relationship, she will take is as seriously as promised and that she won't cheat on me then but I'm kind of losing the hope and the trust. I'm just tired of the situation of not knowing which direction I'm going Please please please some advice!!! I don't know if I should just let her do her things and let her come to her conclusions without any pressure or should I act???
