Lesbian Advice

I'm bi and have been living with my girlfriend for about three months. No, I'm not a lesbian, but I'm always willing to share personal experiences, thoughts, ideas and suggestions with other women who love women...
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Sierra

 

Penis in the room here. Sorry. Asking for a friend (my best friend, my wife). She is attracted mainly to women and can only cum if she is masturbating to lesbian porn. I encourage her to find a girl to experiment with but she is a little shy and embarrassed that anyone would find out. She is also worried about meeting a lesbian who will want to move in with her after the first date. Is that really a thing?? Anybody have any advice for her? Exploring my sexuality was definitely a very liberating experience and i want her to feel the same. She was only with one man before me and I want her to enjoy more variety (regardless of the other person's gender).

 

Wait what, I could have moved in straight away??

 

Other than just asking, how do you tell if a woman is interested in you or interested in women in general?

Like I get super embarrassed when I end up getting flirty with straight women.

 

Honestly I’m no women or expert but I would just say be yourself don’t worry about it and I’m sure if they feel something they will let you know or give you a hint and don’t be scared to speak up communication is key

 

I hope that you could figure out how to act more gay! )
I guess a sign would vary from where you live. Where I live, a sign is any interaction that seems odd yet funny in a certain way, misleading yet safe, showing desire yet respectful and so on. If she's interesting to you, the faster you can catch it and make yourself even or add to it the better it will go.

 

I think you should try avoiding your girlfriend's mom as long as your girlfriend doesn't make it clear to her that she prefers to be with you than with her husband. Except on special occasions when you and her mom are invited. Then, you have to prove her mom that you deserve a share of her life just as much as she does and show off like or as you prefer. But you got to stand your ground and be convincing. Stay focused and true to yourself. You will find there all the strenght you need!
Much love <3

 

I clearly have no doubt about it but those posts seem general and the kind of question a lot of us wonder about. I wanted to give my best advice as I would have liked to read this younger and I hope this can help people who read it today. I came to this forum for some guidance and I would be happy to help others. I noticed sadly that there are not so many replies to the posts. But feel free to delete my posts if they are not welcome.

 

This seems to be one of the main questions coming back in this forum. Hopefully, this answer can help other people who wonder about it.
Of course, you should tell her or you will have to deal with unresolved personal conflicts everytime you see her and this would threaten your relationship. Now, I know that you want things to move forward but you got to take it slow especially because you are young and unexperienced as you say. Don't tell her everything at the first occasion. You have to start acting on your feelings without rushing. Walk the walk. So you don't have to tell her directly until this is obvious and ok for both of you. This can very well take weeks and maybe months but it sould not feel like a burden if you love her, you are honest and you agree to let her time to develop herself, her part of the relationship and to trust you. It takes time and a lot of communication to build a healty relationship.

 

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I would be proud of being in a relationship with a girl who has no problem talking with her ex. It shows a lot a great qualities about her character. I mean, look at it for what it is. She was in a relationship that they both enjoyed since they are still friends to this day. Then, they left each other, are still friends and your girl chooses you over her. They have such high spirits. If you are scared to lose her because of her ex, you will lose her. The presence of your girlfriend in your life should matter more to you than the presence of your girlfriend’s ex in her life.

 

Things only become more complicated as long as they are not expressed. You will have to be really soft and supportive. The best way would be to offer her to go deeper in the relationship (what she wants) for having exclamations on her behavior, mental state and everything in return.

 

The easiest way to reassure your online girl would be to ask your housemate to convince her that she is not your girlfriend.
If we take a step back, we realise that this kind of problem comes back again and again with online dating. The problem is that there is not enough implication from both of you. First, you will doubt of her (You worried about her qualities until you made up your mind that she is "lovely, funny, hard working, pretty, ...". You even doubted she was a girl.). Second, you will doubt of yourself and it will challenge your self-esteem. Finally, if you two start seeing each other, you will doubt of the relationship as every new detail of her life can come and end it. Not great to explore intimacy.
Online dating is too easy for the real life.

 

There are many reasons to think of somebody else. Life is complicated. I would say that it is not perfect but no relationship is perfect. There is really no problem as long as you remain sincere with your actual girlfriend.

 

Have tons of girlfriends and live authentic relationships with each of them. Make different activities, put in efforts to be as implicated and responsible as possible and spend a lot of time with them. Oh! And be proud and confident!