So I have this friend at work. She and I get along very well. We talk all the time in the lab, we eat lunch together sometimes and occasionally we text each other on the weekends. Just recently, she came out to my birthday party and when she had to leave she gave me a hug and left the restaurant. When she had left the table, one of my other friends asked me "Is she your lady friend? That was a really nice hug she gave you. I think there's something there." Or something along those lines. As a reply I just kind of stuttered and my cheeks probably turned a little red. I really like this girl and I actually asked her out a few days before my party. She said no because she had just broken up with her boyfriend of three years and she's kind of depressed right now. I know I probably should've waited longer (much longer) but I was just afraid of waiting too long and then finding out she was already with some other guy which would've really sucked. But she said she would keep me "in mind." The guy who asked if she's my lady friend is a few years older than me and probably has more experience with women and life in general so I'm inclined to believe he's on to something. So what do you think? Could this lady friend of mine one day become my girlfriend or will she remain as just a friend?
If he seems to be the knowledgeable type, a people person anyways, he may have seen something there. In my mind doing all those things with a guy could mean you really like him as a friend, which regardless of what everyone says, being in the "friend-zone" isn't a permanent thing. Me myself, I've had relationships that have studded from friendships. She likes you as a person so far, and if she did just get out of a relationship, she definitely needs space. What I would do in your situation.... be that friend. Don't expect anything out of it. Just be that person she can turn to and in the end, she may chose you or not. Just give her some time to heal . Hope this helped a bit. From a woman's view you're in the best position right now!
