Okay, I know I have no right (as a non-mother, etc) to bitch and criticize others' parenting, but I just had to rant and rave about this one. I'm aquainted with a couple, who though I don't know very well, they are good friends of another couple who I'm very close to. This woman was pg when I first met her in october. I'd noticed in her pregnancy that she hadn't stopped smoking (cigarettes or herb), but figured it wasn't my place to say anything and I was sure she knew the risks of what she was doing. I noticed after her son was born (I met him at 4 weeks) that he was extremely small, and extremely complacent. Like, more spacey and glazed-over looking than any baby I've ever known at this age. Again, I held my tongue. I asked if they were bfing, and she made some veiled reference to an "antidepressant" that she took that couldn't be used while bfing, so they are formula-feeding instead. Again, I held my tongue. Now, the other day I was hanging out and visiting with our mutual friend, and I found out that the "anti-depressant" was in fact klonopin (sp?) and the poor kid was actually born dependant on it. My first reaction was "well, if it's not safe while bfing, what kind of doc would prescribe it while she's pg?" It turns out that she continued getting these scripts filled somehow by her shrink without informing him that she was pregnant, and then claimed at birth that she just "didn't know" it was bad. WTF!? The poor kid even recieved special treatment at the hospital for a chemical dependency, but she got zero flack for what she's done. Now, I'm no expert, but I've seen the way friends of mine have reacted on k-pin, and it just pisses me off that anyone would allow that stuff to get in their baby's system. And like I said, I'm keeping my mouth shut around the people who are actually close to this situation, so I feel like exploding and I knew you guys would understand! Hopefully that made some kind of sense. !