Hi, I've just broken up with my boyfriend after 7 years and I'm really out of practice with how to get a guy's attention! There's a guy I have been really attracted to for a long time who has also just broken up with his fiancée. I'm 26, he's 34 and I've known him through mutual friends since I met my ex. I'm pretty sure he likes me too because whenever I'm around him he play fights with me, doing "innocent" stuff but it really makes me want him, the physical contact drives me insane! Anyway, I don't see him often and it's always in group situations with other people. There's another complication that he's Spanish and I'm not too good at speaking his language... So now that we're both single, next time he starts play fighting with me, I need a killer move to turn him on and let him know I want him... Something I can do in front of other people but will get him hot... Do any of you have ideas for how to really get his attention, without anyone noticing?
Kiss him, or whisper that you want to fuck him. Either works. Seriously, you are both clearly interested, just go for it. Or ask him to hang out with you one-on-one some time.
that's not how it works. if you do something that nobody will notice, nobody will notice. including him. that subtlety bullshit that women like to pull only works on other women, because it's too subtle for men to pick up on.
Estoy interesado en follarte. (I'm interested in fucking you.) Cuando jugamos a la lucha, mi coño siempre vuelve tan mojado. (When we play at fighting, my pussy always gets so wet.) Lo siento, Guapito. No hablo Español. (I'm sorry, Cutie. I don't speak Spanish.) That is a direct approach. I don't know about anyone else, but I typically just tell men what I'm thinking. Either they are into it, or they are not. Just speak very quietly so only the two of you know. Cuidado: chocha mojado. (Caution: wet pussy.) You could say that into his ear when he is about to win, and use his shock to gain the upper hand.
Men don't get subtlety. They just don't. You have to hit them over the head with it. (Trust me I know!)
This where a tiny cast iron frying pan might come in handy. Whack him one and drag him away like they did to us in the caveman days. But seriously, if he play fights with you then tell him something like "You better not start what you can't finish" if he has half a brain he will catch on and go for it. Bets are he is hoping for a cue.
The I want to tell you something that's a secret approach always works and is a classic and private by default method of conveying the direct approach. It works in every age group including if you are a young kid that is just naturally flirty and playful. If a guy or gal, blurts out openly to the public, what you just whispered in their ear, move on immediately, then they're a jackass and you know to dump them as soon as possible to move on.