Just need to vent.

I'm not sure if this is the right thread for this but I really need to vent. I'm a disabled adult who still lives at home with overprotective parents. I'm unable to drive. I really want to attend a rainbow gathering or a music festival. I'm still a virgin. I want to have sex. I want to smoke pot and I want to drop acid. I want to hang out with legit hippies where I can experience those things: sex, pot, and acid. If only I had a friend that could take me to a rainbow gathering or a music festival.

 

Did you research the event, I’m sure others are looking for a ways to get to the festival.
Put the information out that your looking for likeminded people that are heading that way and you need a ride.
I’ve been to a few bike rallies and have read on the forums that people are looking to ride with, share a place to stay etc.

Enjoy the festival

 

I'm a disabled adult and my mom won't just let me take a ride from people I dont know.

 

Yes, I was thinking about this when you said overprotective, this is the way of some parents, I have a good friend with a daughter that is also disabled. She to was overprotective and tried to keep her safe by controlling everything and everyone around her. Eventually after many discussions-arguments mom loosened up a little, her daughter showed her ability to function independently, she now drives lives in her own apartment, even has a boyfriend. I was asked to teach how to ride a ATV, she has fallen off but always gets back on.

You have a few months to talk things out with your family.

 

My mom isn't very reasonable or understanding. Talking to her doesn't work.

 

I’m sorry to read such things, being that your on hip your an adult, how can she stop you from going if this is something you really would like to do.

 

Because she's overprotective and very weary. She doesn't even know I'm on hip forums or any social networking site.

 

I’m sure your very aware of this, until you are able to gain some independence you are destined to live each day exactly as the day before.

As I mentioned a friend has a daughter, she somehow felt responsible for her daughter’s condition. She was not it was a tragic accident, nothing more.
She eventually came to the realization that she didn’t put her daughter in the wheelchair and could not have prevented it.

 

I dont have the courage to gain my independence. Easier said than done.

 

I wish your mom was on to talk to.
My kids are middle aged now, and they turned out just fine; I protected them from many dangers, but let them make some mistakes as well, because that's how you learn.
Do you think your mom would be more reasonable if you reminded her that she will not always be there?
I would ask her how I could expect to cope on my own, should anything happen to her.
She may never have considered the fact that you could be thrust out into the world someday, alone and unprepared.

 

There are websites that specialize in counseling, and might be able to point you in the direction of someone who can help you become independent.

 

Its not an easy subject to talk to her about.

 

I'm sure it's not, but my dear, this will never change if you don't at least try!
After all, you're probably going to outlive her, and then what?
Where are you located, if you don't mind my asking? There may be help close by; perhaps an advocacy group.

 

Although this post is rolling up on four years old, I see the OP (I'm looking at you, PoeticPeacenik) was online yesterday.

Trigger Alert™! Tough Love coming!

It seems to me (unless things have changed since this thread) that you're content with the way things are. So, problem solved!

If, however, you do want to change your life, you begin with YOU! Work on that attitude, because if you argue for your limitations, they're definitely yours. Sex and festivals (or sex festivals!) are not going door to door looking for you. Screw your courage to the sticking point and be proactive.

And if anyone ever said it should be easy, they lied. Sometimes we just need to do the hard things.

(If the years since this original post find you fucking like mad at festivals around the world, then just ignore my post. Which you can do anyway.)

 

I'm still in my situation. And I log on like once a day but I just rarely post anymore.

And no, I'm not happy with my situation. I'm just literally afraid to do anything. I hate this notion that just because somebody is afraid that they must enjoy their situation. Fear is a real thing and can hold us back. I honestly don't know what I'm afraid of, though. I thought about it and I can't figure out what it is I'm afraid of.

 

Of course fear is real. Very real.

But so is willpower. So is flipping the bird to your fears (and the whole world) and shouting, "Screw you! I'm doing this!"

Only you can chose to do that.

Everything you want is on the other side of fear.

 

On a gentler tack, have you pursued counseling?

 

Sorry that you're going through this @PoeticPeacenik

Since you've indicated that this a venting thread, I won't offer advice unless you change your mind.

I hope things can get better soon.

 

I just don't like the notion that if you're afraid it must mean you enjoy the situation because you won't get out. People really thinks that.