Just Lost My Fuck Buddy

Ah ok.. if you are looking for no strings attached fuck buddy. you will have a better chance with guys.

I can relate though. Before i flipped. I just played with the idea of kissing a girl but i couldnt imagine going down on a girl.

Once i actually acted on my thoughts it was awesome. A lot more fun than with a guy. If you are a playful type. Its a transition and no doubt. But personally that allowed me to explore diff pleasurable experiences.

You can end up with a guy. No one says you cannot. Life is about choices and experiences and you make your own.

 

Thank you for sharing your experience. It's not that I haven't been curious but I just don't want to be that straight girl that plays with someone's feelings, realizes they aren't gay and splits. I don't want to just use someone for a test. I know I'd rather be with men, so it's like... why do that to someone if I feel like I pretty much already know? I feel like I'd be an utter goober about it too, lol. I'm awkward enough as is...

 

Oh . There are girls who will understand its just a FB relationship. Some just look for that. So for the sake of just exploring and building experiences. You will find girls who will know theres no feelings involved.

Buut. If you already know thats not something you want to experience. Thats totally fine.

You mentioned that you dont want to settle in a relationship with a guy just yet. It shouldnt matter what experiences or how many you had if its something that is not happening while in a relationship.

It does suck having to find a new FB but when the fun is only given and not recieved. Then its def time to find some new buddy.

 

That's what I thought. Things just got too complicated. It wasn't fun anymore. I haven't been perfect. We've backslid into old habits a few times (he's hot, don't judge me), but for all intents and purposes, we have ended the agreement. It's hard when you're still friends with them. But yeah I'm just kind of focused on other things right now. Like I said before, I'm open to booty should it happen to find me, but I'm not looking. If it does appear, very clear boundaries will be set so no one gets hurt. We'll see how it goes.

 

Im sure your next booty will find you ☺.

Are you picky when it comes to FB?

 

I'd prefer someone that I am friends with first. So in a way I'm picky. I'm not just going to point to someone on the street. I thought for a bit that it would that easy and perhaps I might be ABLE to do that, but it wouldn't make me happy. I'm an anxious person, lol. I need to feel safe. I need to trust them and feel comfortable with them. I wish I was a one night stand kind of girl sometimes because that would be the ultimate no strings attached but I just don't think it would work. I'd get scared. This is why I've always been in relationships.

 

Why is it like finding an unicorn? I mean isn't that what others look as well? (See below... I guess your not alone with your ideas ;-) )

I don't think that's a specialty you own alone ;-) I guess others are around with similar profile ;-) So, chances are quite high to end up similar ;-)

But anyway, I would guess its as well a matter of vision.... Vision bout your longing for...

 

Ahh . Well it does make sense. You do want to feel safe with that person for sure.

 

Well, there you go

Everything that will follow will be.determined by that.

You have to be friends first, which will dramatically reduce the pool in the first place...and the guys will just see that as really being how much money they are supposed to spend first

Then jealousy ruins the chance of more than one at a time

And you've already.said you get bored of them too quick, then trapped with one you are not attracted to.

Maybe the answer is the opposite of everything

Dont try be friends first

Savour the jealousy and feed off its angry teet

Tell them you are going to get bored after a month

 

Lmao, I don't always get bored. The last guy didn't bore me. Which is why it hurt that he was the only one who wasn't happy with just me. It just feels like someone is always going to get tired of the relationship and bail, whether it be me or him. I hope I'm wrong but it bums me out to think maybe no one is really happy in relationships forever and someone is always settling if they do stay together... I know that's a really cynical view, but I got burned pretty bad this last time... I went from being his muse to his ball and chain in a relatively short timespan. It was a long fall off the pedestal that he put me on... But at the same time, I guess I'm glad it happened because I needed a reality check BAD. I don't know... All I can say is I hope I'm wrong. Divorce rates kind of support my theory, though... Not to make anyone who is actually happy super paranoid or anything. >_>

 

Then on top of that you can be a totally different person in 20 years

Everything you want for and plan now, you can have no interest in 20,30 years later

No just sex, relationships, same kind of logic with money

Spending money on stuff you think is cool or makes you feel good now, clothes, nightclubs

20 years later, you realise, all the shit you spent money on, on stuff you didnt really need just ends up meaning if instead you had saved and invested, compounding annually - you could leave the rat race 10 years earlier, not really even have to work. Sit on your arse drink gin and tonics all day, sleep in, cos 30 years later thats all you care about

 

I did spend 22 years with the same person, but we didn't meet and marry until I was 30 years old. So, I have a frame of reference for both worlds.

 

No you dont. Because you didnt spend your 30s and 40s single

Likely you would have thought, better hurry up and find a man before 30 dont want to end up alone. Based mainly on guys that go by looks, but not all of them will care.

If you had stayed single likely you would have got hit on by more guys, not all types but certain subsets who would just assume past 30 you were hornier, more experienced, better at it, and far less annoying than some of these idiot 20 yr olds.

Or you yourself, even if you call it desperate, a little more likely to chase them, then better knowledge about which guys will follow through. Also concentrate more on work, career then get all the benefits and independance that comes with that.

You have a couples dinner, you invite a 40 yr old gal friend that youve never seen with a boyfriend, she always declines. Doesnt always mean she is lonely, just doesnt want to hear ' have you found someone yet' for the 100th time. Doesnt let you meet any lover, becuas if its a new one every 6 months, all your couple friends will give her a reputation, get insecure about having her around their husbands, then make up a bunch of indirect excuses for you not to invite her, every excuse but the real one, they dont want her giving it up for free to their husbands.

You are never really going to know if overall it would have been better to spend that peroid of your life single

 

Ok...I did not realize one had to be single during that particular era for it to count.

You assume a lot dude...a whole lot.

I never had the thought to hurry and find a man by 30 and never had any thought about ending up alone or not. I allow life to just happen.. I wasn't looking. We met by happenstance.

I never, ever chased a man...and never, ever will.


carry on with your assumptions....

 

LOL, you're so dramatic. This is the part where PomH throws her drink in your face, tells you to go to hell and storms out. Tell me, do you watch a lot of daytime soaps?

Thanks for the laugh. It really reminded me that I need to lighten up and stop taking this shit so seriously. :beatnik:

 

Okey Dokey

 

@Firefly so are you wanting a bf or fb?

 

Or put it another way

If the male.vs female thing was always true, men are from mars, women from venus

Then why isnt sunflower here the same as you two (fire and piece)?

'Have to be friends first' 'Would never chase a man' doesnt apply to all girls

Although it appears sunflower isnt going to chase males anymore

 

And one more thing.

What the guys should be looking for ahead of everything else is how she is going to be with the kids

Money actually goes to the kids and their future rather than on a whole bunch of crap for herself