Just Lost My Fuck Buddy

lemon juice is supposed to make your hair gray, if you want to try and speed the process along. my dad put lemon juice in his hair for a brief period, claiming it made him look "distinguished." then he actually went gray and seemed much less enthusiastic about it.

 

We're good. I post here because I like to hear what people think. It's like a sounding board. I don't always like everything people post but your replies have always come off as constructive. I like to argue, though, because ultimately I'm gonna do what I want, but I want to work through it first...

 

I love long grey hair, too! I don't even care if it comes early. I'm going to wear it in two long braids a la Willy Nelson.

 

Yeah you cant really have both

Everyone tells you you can

But if he is an awesome shag, too much competition

 

^R U talking to yourself ?

 

I dare to assure it does matter and it will get other results. Maybe you don't get any results with the particular guy in such a situation, which seems like good riddance. Guys who get whiny and/or pushy about sex when you just start dating should not get it if you don't feel like it.... obviously. Hey, if someone's craving it on the first date and wants to make it known, ok (i guess). But if he would not start a relationship with you if you say no, not on the first (couple of) dates why in earth 'put out'!?

Sure, but there are also a lot of guys who just wanna get laid. They might go for a short relationship when the girl puts out soon, but when they pick up on a high level of insecurity/desperation and get their sexy time they might just settle for the sex. Once they got it and feel something among the lines of 'this isn't going to be my girl on the long term' they dump her. Often after the first time they got sex with her. I see it all the time.
It's seems to me there are a lot of guys (far from all ) who are willing to fake interest in a relationship to get a one night stand. It's like they think 'hey other guys (and sometimes girls too) seem to do it all the time, it is not that an atrocious thing to do. If she really didn't want a one night stand she wouldn't have put out on the first date'.

 

Thank you for confirming my nightmare.
This is one reason I'm afraid to settle down. You get into that gooey love groove and there's no spark and you just end up being roommates that occasionally get each other off. I've done that. I'm too young to settle for that now. Love is amazing. Relationships are amazing but you know what? Fucking is awesome too, and I'd like to get some good memories under my belt before I pack up my vagoo in a vacuum-sealed bag and keep it on the top shelf of the closet. I've done that (8 years!) and I don't want to do it again. The guy that gets me to do that will have to be real fuckin special.

 

How so? Can the competition smell he's such a good lay? Or does he has a tattoo on his forehead? Also, if he has an awesome shag partner why would he bother with her competition? Seems you are talking about a stereotype or generality again. Hope everyone realizes that!

 

I keep hope, but I've learned not to settle. That's all I'm saying.

 

It gets worse, worse for you ladies me thinks, as they have to perform

At my age (44) see the gay ones, but even they stay in shape more so cos they have too much time

on their hands than sex, the straight ones, never see them

1 in 100 when they are 19, 1 in 1000 by the time they are 40, think they have to have a physical outside career to keep them in shape

 

I've done this socialization thing with males for a few years now and I've changed my position many times to see if the outcome would differ. It doesn't. There are some people who get a certain kind of socialization and there are some people who get another kind of socialization. This doesn't just go for females seeking males. It can also be applied to males seeking females. It can apply to friendships, just as much as causal sex and romances. It's like going back to kindergarten and some kids get all the friends, some get a few, and others are just out in the cold. It's how life is. It's the luck of the draw. It's whatever. I have no idea.

Point is, no one cares. So, it's not important. As long as you you're not that kid, none of this matters.

 

And this leads to different outcomes. Maybe not all the time, and maybe you were unlucky with the guys or the outcomes.

If you say so

Well really, they do not all stay in shape mainly or primarily because there's competition.

Of course not turning into a saggy ass or a complacent partner is a worthy thing to keep at, but not primarily because of some kind of fear that if they don't 'perform' their partner will leave. Sure there's a truth in clichés and stereotypes, VG, but that's what they are. They're not laws of the universe. When people talk and act like they are they seem to turn into such a cliché themselves and perpetuating the stereotype unneccessarily. We can just as well leave it behind, which I guess mainly depends on someone's partner and ex-partners (like if you never experienced an other kind of example I can see people believe and give in to such cliché's).

 

Can't wait to get old cuz ya like gray hair? if the hair is what you like, dye it gray cuz getting old is painful, physically painful.

 

Oh, arent you sweet

 

It just sometimes seems like you are entirely serious when you post these clichés as the inevitable conclusion for everyone...

 

Just Firefly in this case, everyone else can keep pretending

 

So wait, what are we talking about here- looks or physical prowess? Because I've never like the Ken-doll standard of attractiveness for me, so they don't have to look like Channing Tatum (blecch) into their twilight years. I had hoped that with practice and wisdom at least some men would become better lovers, not worse. If you mean stamina declines, then yeah, duh... But I would think that unless a guy is a selfish lover, they would add knowledge to their routine, not lose it. Or are you saying they're all selfish lovers? I guess I'm just not understanding which bad news you're giving me.

 

Huh?, you dont ever have to have seen a vagina to spot the ones angry at the world becuase they've never been hammered for 4 hrs

As for looks, you already know, you've never had that where you get within 10 ft of some guy, he looks you in the eye and you have to go change your underthingies?

Joaquin Phoenix, that guy drives me nuts, everytime I watch a movie of his I have to beat off three times, only once for Signs cos that movie is soooo slow. If I ever saw him in person probably would faint or get arrested

 

So where does this anger at the world becomes apparent here, other than between your ears?

Same with your assumptions in this thread about the OP and looks: where do you exactly base it on? What she said, or on the stereotypes/clichés you project on (people like) her? Serious question!

 

I have had both of those things, lol. Mostly with the last guy I was with. That's why we screwed for so long after the relationship ended. I finally decided "okay, I've done this and it's not worth it because I'm not having fun with this person anymore" and we ended it. There was an emotional component that was making things unpleasant for both of us and that's why things dropped off. I don't feel like I ask for much these days. Just be kind enough to return the favor of I make you come, and don't make me feel like I'm forcing you to wash the dishes. It's just polite. It doesn't even have to be every time. Sometimes I just like a cock shooting up in me and I kind of get off on him getting off. I feel like I'm pretty giving. Just don't be a selfish prick and take advantage. There still has to be a reason for me to keep coming back in order for an agreement to continue (this does not apply to one night stands, I guess, but I'm not really into those anyway). In legit relationships I'm a little more lenient as there are many more factors to consider, but I do tend to get nervous when sex drops off because in the past it has meant interest has declined and someone is not being honest with me about wanting to end the relationship. I know that's not always the case, but it's happened twice now.

Also, the way you feel about Joaquin is the way I feel about Evan Peters. God damn, he makes me feel things I haven't felt since I was a teenager. I would give anything for just 5 minutes... BUT ANYWAY, lol...