I'll be 36 next month. I'm pretty settled and comfortable. Married 11 years and counting. The bills are paid and money is saved. I'm quite happy in my life, my looks may be getting older, but I'd rather age gracefully than fight it and end up looking like an old drag queen. I can't imagine being out there dating. It would suck ass having to sort through the idiots, looking for a good one... I've noticed there are a lot of grown men out there who are under the impression that they are still 20, living paycheck to paycheck, partying every night like frat boys. I have no patience for that at all.
Good question. I feel like an awkward teenager. Just a lot more laid-back and structured. And insecure about my future with women...
Hell, I'm 53 going on 37. At least that's what she says. My sex life has never been better. I take pills for high blood pressure and cholesterol and a Viagra now and then and I guess I get a little tired around 2 in the morning, but other than that, middle age is great.
I like being my age now. I'm happier than I've ever been and my sex drive is still high.. in fact I'm enjoying it more than ever because I've let go some hangups and now feel alot more liberated. I think I'm at that great stage where I have enough wisdom and maturity and still feel young and energetic. My inner joy shines through more and I'm much more secure and confident. What's interesting is that even though in some ways I've aged... but inside I still FEEL way younger.
I mean, I've noticed that the first symptom of getting old is you start to turn down the volume. Don't do it.
I would have to say that the good outweighs the bad in getting older. Probably the biggest positive is that I have fully learned the uselessness of worry. We are seldom smart enough to worry about the right things. I have learned the futility of trying to impress anyone. This saves considerable wasted effort and money. I have also learned to love more deeply and unconditionally. One of the negatives is admittedly superficial, but I still feel it. Sometimes I encounter a pretty girl in her twenties and I smile at her, in a spontaneous and natural reaction. For a split second, I honestly forget how old I am. Frequently, the reaction is pure disgust. And many times I have overheard young people talking about how creepy, worthless, and unsexy all middle-aged people are. I hate being lumped into a negative stereotype just for existing on the planet for a number of years. This will only get worse. I wouldn't go back to my twenties, if I had a choice.
well if you have noticed Jesus and Buddha, as well as many spiritual leaders, found enlightenment in their thirties. Enlightenment is only lightening up....so hell yeah..., be light about your crankiness
All and all,I've had a very good life.Almost got killed a few times(gun,knife,Auto),met and loved some fine women,had over 100 vehicles(some classics)traveled some,worked from Florida to Oregon to Hawaii(a million stories there)Lived on a sailboat,had a few one nighters here and there,pitched fast pitch softball,made a name for myself at basketball,started smoking weed in '58,L at 28(oh,there'a story or two)was an absolute wild man,had some great kids----ect,ect.It all goes so fast,looking back on it.I'm 10 lbs over my graduation weight,take no medicine and don't need viagra.I spend every working day laughing my ass off because my kids are some of the funniest people I ever met.I say if you want to do something--git r done--you'll be old(if you're lucky)in no time at all.I'm a happy man.:cheers2: