I've found my soulmate

Falling in love with a married man, first world problems.
Sorry about the insensitivity, but oh well.

 

Ya know, If coach would have put me in during the fourth quarter back in 82', We would have won state and id be sitting here typing this with my soulmate and a millionaire.

But, Coach didn't so I live in a van down by the river and buy lot lizards to fill the gap!


If the marriage has muddy waters already, Just sit back and wait, He will come to you if the feelings are there. There are many ways and IMO if you want him, Go and get him married or not. Whats the worst that can happen? You have to beat the wife's ass?
Its worth it if you think you have a bond stronger than what he has now. Then again, There are a billion fish in the sea, Im sure there is another close in standards. But me and it being a married woman, Id want to fuck them all :2thumbsup:

 

stop acting you are from a third world country

 

I'm not.
Or as Antithesis would say: ....

 

Jesus Antithesis, man up!

 

I missed the original OP, but I think I've pieced together the story from the replies.

Since he's the one who is married, wait for him to make the next move, and go from there. You aren't responsible for his other relationship(s), or for any of his decisions. You never know what might develop. Being a mistress can be fun, even if it doesn't lead to anything else. I did it for a while. No regrets.

Aggressively going after him would make you a husband thief, so I'm glad you aren't contemplating that.

 

Yeah, he has feelings for me too... so I don't really know what is going to happen. I kind of wish I hadn't taken this job and had just stayed at the Forest Service though...

 

Yep, no one in the third world has ever had love problems...

 

Thank you... it has been a pretty terrible last 6 months.

 

She acts like she is poverty but does photo shoots n shit lol. i dont understand the logic

 

I currently have -600 dollars in my bank account so I am far from wealthy, despite what people might think

 

I feel your pain!! I have like.. 30 bucks in my checking and savings accounts.

 

After reading the first page and first page only (will now read rest and may comment further), I Just wanna say.... Christine... Why did you have to edit???

 

Becuz people were being lame

 

I regretted making the post in the first place...as I usually do. But then decided to keep replying for some reason.

Basically I was just saying that I'm in love with someone I knew 13 years ago and we have reconnected and the feelings are still there but he is married now... so obviously that is a problem for me. We couldn't be together back then because he was 30 and I was 17. Nothing very thrilling, I was just feeling sad and decided to talk about which was a mistake, as always.

 

Someday I hope to find work that lasts for more than 4 months out of the year! That would help my account

 

Aw, don't worry bout hf haters.

It's not like you posted that n then were like "and then I went out and got him drunk and told him I wanted to ride him all night" or you know, whatever.

So he works at your new job I remember you saying you were getting? I don't know, it sucks because people (obviously!) can't control who they do or don't have feelings for. And old people...past people are especially difficult. I think I'd just go w Karen's and maybe someone else's advice and see what he says about things... and obviously if he does try to start anything, make sure to think about what you can or cannot live with. And... if it goes this far....what you can and cannot live without. Those types of situations are tough because like I said, feelings can't be turned on and off. Me and my ex from way, way, way back (high school) live near each other and are friends but we don't really hang out because it would just be too- difficult. You know, because me and him moved away-grew apart- never had a bad break up and obviously, I'm happy now with a second kid on the way, so... not messing it up and not doing anything with him so, just don't spend time with him. I know your situation is different but I'd say just say how he acts or what he says in the future?

 

That is some excellent advice and kind of what I am feeling. I definitely didn't intend for these feelings to come back, but they did. I'm hoping I will just meet someone else or realize that I am better off just being alone.

 

My situation is not the same as yours and I don't know the whole thing w yours... BUT .... people from back then, you know, when we were 15, 16, 17, 18 years old and stuff.... as long as whatever it was ended well (meaning if you don't end up hating the person... lol!) then oftentimes when you do see them again, the same feelings tend to come back for a lot of people. I think it has something to do with the newness of love and crushes and all that stuff back at that age... how it all seems more vibrant and stuff. Often times things come right back in ways that don't happen with people we've met since then.

Anyways... you're a smart girl. You'll know intuitively what to do. Have a good night... must get off here. xx.

 

Timing is a real bitch.