When sex stopped with the wife, did you size up your options and make a choice to cheat or go in the bi direction. There weren't too many women available and if they were, it took time, money and sneaking around. I didn't want to cheat and Im too cheap to wine and dine a woman just for sex. There were plenty of men who would opt for a quick enounter while getting his rocks off with NO STRINGS ATTACHED. When my wife suggested that I let our friend suck my cock, I thought it over for a while before going in that direction. While she didn't want sex herself,watching gave her a thrill, fortunately a Big thrill. I sure miss the pussy and ass of a woman, but at least Im getting a little satisfaction. Did you have to make a choice?
My experience of women over 50 (over 60 too) is that they are still up for it and amazingly good compared with the younger ones. Nope, my partner isn't (up for it) but others are and probably the biggest thing Ive learned is they don't faff about wasting time, teasing and tempting. There's no point. They don't want to sneak about either because they left that concept behind years back. And when you get between the sheets (or outdoors, as I did once with such a lady), it can be relaxed with absolutely no rush, gently though powerfully stimulating, with a long continual build-up, and amazing orgasms for both. Often more fulfilling than when done at the quicker pace of younger ones. I shan't say anything more enticing or you guys will snap them all up. I'd be a way down the queue.
Some thirty years ago my wife at the time had just given birth to our second child and she slowly lost interest in having sex with me. I found myself begging for it, which simply angered her. I couldn't believe this was happening as I found myself masturbating more and more with each passing week and months. I'd never been approached by any woman asking if I'd like a blowjob, but I had been asked by many men and always turned them down. Well, then one day I accepted one from a guy and he was fantastic. Having a warm mouth sucking on my cock was far better than stroking myself for satisfaction. It wasn't long before I found myself sucking cock and questioning my sexuality. It was so satisfying and enjoyable to do, more so than I ever expected. In my mind at the time, I didn't consider it cheating on my wife as he and I we after all just filling in for our wives with each other. Her unwillingness to do something so easy (IMO) led me to seek satisfaction elsewhere from someone else. I was now hooking up with many different guys for mutual oral sex and stopped asking my wife for sex, I was being satisfied giving and getting oral sex with men and having a really good time doing so. I was regularly getting together with three other married men in the same situation. It's really sad when you think about it that we all met because of our situations but none of us ever regretted what we were doing for each other.
I have had to make a choice. With my wife no longer interested in sex and unwilling to satisfy me something had to change. I’m not crazy about going behind her back but my options are limited. If I go after another woman it will undoubtedly get messy and I don’t want that. Since I had been curious about men for many years it made sense. She happily doesn't know( she has stated she doesn’t want to) I get some relief and don’t resent her her not providing it.
My story is similar. Menopause hit. Sex stopped. Got tired of bringing it up. Not a fan of sneaking around and it doesn’t feel right. However my wife has a mouth and hands and has no interest in helping me out. She wouldn’t enjoy doing it, so what’s the point. Took me a long time to wrap my brain around it as I never had any interest in guys. I enjoy it now. It’s a means to an end.
Is she aware of your activities? My wife knew how horny I was and that stroking it , just didn't cut it. Women were forbidden, but she is all in when it comes to Bi and approves of it, as a solution to our situation. I believe she is a true gay voyeur.
She is not. I don’t think she would accept it well. Too much to risk to bring it up now. IfI ever find the right time, I will. I don’t want another woman. I am so into her and it drives me crazy she has no interest. She has had her share of health issues, so that adds to it.
That is why my wife suggested the idea .Actually, my friends wife suggested it and my wife was all for it. Its a simple solution for a mutual situation that my friend and I were both in. Her exact words were " I'm done with sex, so why don't you guys just go downstairs and blow each other and get it out of your system.
