your wife loses interest in sex. My wife and I have been married 33 years and for 32 of those years we had a fantastic sex life. We had only been married a few weeks when one evening during sex she said " I wish we had another girl here !!! " so later I asked her if she meant it, she said yes, she often thought about other girls. For the next 24 years though, we lived the life of a young couple raising a family but the sex was awesome, if the kids weren't home we went at it like rabbits, when the kids were asleep, same thing, she loved sex, couldn't get enough, said she wanted it morning ,noon and night and I was happy to help lol. Around the 25 year mark, I came home from work and she told me she had posted a profile of us on a lifestyle site, WOW !!!, knew she was horny all the time but wasn't expecting THAT !. So for the next 4 years or so we dabbled in the lifestyle, we were never in it in a big way, hooked up with maybe a half dozen couples, and she finally got to have girl/girl sex and loved it ! We had threesome's, foursome's, (very) light bondage, she played on her own with a couple of guys and a couple of girls. But during this whole time, she was also going through various surgeries on her knees and back, plus some other, more minor, issues. About a year ago, things started crashing down, the stress of the surgeries and recoveries, physical therapy, constant pain and other things, sent her into clinical depression, which as her husband and caregiver, has been the hardest thing to handle of all. Her interest in sex has all but vanished, and it's very hard for see her just sitting quietly with a sad look on her face, she used to be the life of the party and had set the bar so high sexually speaking, that none of the playmates I had came close to matching it. I still love her more than anything and even though she gave me a hall pass years ago to have a girlfriend on the side, I've ruled that out because as vulnerable as I am right now, things could get complicated. So I may try to have a sexual relationship with a guy, I've been curious for years, just to have some physical contact and help satisfy the urge for sex which my wife has little interest in......
As you noted in another thread, we share a similar story line. So, I do know how and what you are feeling. I can't answer for your wife, but I suspect (not accuse) that prescribed opiates may be the underlying cause to our problem. In my case, my wife gets headaches if a butterfly farts in Indonesia, and her goto pain killer is hydrocodone. I don't believe she has a problem with them, as I often have to advise her to take something. But, I have to believe there is some form of dependency and the use of the meds has suppressed her libido considerably. Her headaches are getting worse again, which means increased medication. And so the cycle goes. There is not much I can do about it, beyond encouraging her to find alternative treatments and keeping her interested in me.
Same here. With my ex wife it was her latent bipolar manic depressive personality came out. Tried several drugs and had some success, but it killed her sex drive and prevented her from orgasms, which she always had before. When she started feeling better shed quit the drugs.......and CRASH! I travelled a few nights a week, and when I returned home I didn't know if I'd find her depressed on the couch (she'd been there for days) or see that she had rearranged the furniture a few times in a manic state. Came home one day and found her unconscious on the couch surrounded by empty booze and pill bottles. She tried killing herself. ER and hospital for a couple of days. A few months later she did it again with booze and over the counter drugs. Got her more advanced care, but decided I couldn't handle it any longer and filed for divorce. Current wife of 20+ years was my sexual soulmate. Horny all the time, tried new and different things for about 10 years. She started becoming less active, both sexually and physically. She started packing on the weight and as a result is having knee and joint problems carrying around the extra 50 pounds. She still has that pretty face and beautiful blue eyes, but the rest of her has morphed in to a body I can't get excited about. Because of her pains and body issues, she's shown no interest in sex for almost 3 years. I truly love her, she's a great roommate, mother and grandmother. But roommate is about the only way to describe the marriage. Unlike @Downonthemuffin i do not have a hall pass. If I did I don't know if I could use it because of guilt. But like he said, I'm thinking more and more of same male companionship. Had experiences way back in my youth, but the curiosities have come back in a big way the last few years. Sexless marriages SUCK!
Sad to read your post....a little bit surprised that with all your years of swinging and play with others you haven't ever fancied or undertaken m2m play along the way. Imho we are all potentially bi or pansexual beings just conditioned by our upbringing and cultural modes, and those of us with high sexual libidos....... I just enjoy all aspects of sex with other humans......why bother about gender if u r having fun?! I do feel sorry for your wife who has obviously enjoyed her active sex life....but at worst if she doesn't get her desires back she has a lot of great memories. Good luck, Simon
I've had a couple of chances for m2m play but the first guy didn't do it for me in terms of personality, the second guy would have been fine I think but we were playing 4 to a bed and I wasn't ready to play to an audience. When my wife had her first girl/girl experience, she wanted it to be just her and the other girl and I understand that. I want it to be just me and the other guy...
sure, can understand that. hope u find someone nice, a friend with benefits sounds what u need just now good luck simon
I've been bi curious for a long time, but always kind of pushed those desires to one side, but with the wife diagnosed with depression and taking anti depressants, her sex drive has bottomed out, especially considering how it used to be, and the bi curious urges have returned in a big way....
