Its official. I now have no friends.

I'm chilled dude. I talk about sex, pussy, cock...make racist jokes. Make fun of people. Talk about whatever I feel like, from existentialism, to obscure 80s music....I kind of don't care. The problem is, I am myself, while they are all cool. I am not cool. Therefore I get ignored, and feel bored after an hour and go home, unless I meet an interesting chick, in which most cases she has a boyfriend or gets dragged off by her friend who doesn't like me.

 

Well, lighten up in the sense that you should give people a bit more of a chance.

...and you could truly meet people who are more similar to you. I'm sure that you'll meet a good batch of those in college though.

 

Jesus man....I give everyone a chance. I am not judgmental at all. If someone wants to dance around and sing pearl jam, I'll sing it with them. If someone wants to talk about their ten boyfriends, and which ones want to buy them tickets for a pink concert, I will listen, and give advice. If someone whines, they can whine. If they want to get drunk, they can get drunk. I just am tired of being shot down and ignored everytime I want to say something slightly weird. The problem doesn't lie with me. I have travelled the world and met all kinds of freaks. I work in a supermarket with working class yobbos. I have no judgment problem.

The fact of the matter is, you would HATE these people and not even give them the time of day. I have a lot of patience. I'm kind of annoyed because you're usually smarter than this dude.

I also despise this goddamn internet assumption that goes like this: When one states a fact, they are either whining for looking for advice. Well, no. I like having no friends and I am not whining. Just noting the irony and humour in my situation.

 

I'm not saying that you're judgmental, I'm just saying that you might want to deal with some of these people if you want more friends. They could grow on you, or you could meet other people through them.

But yet again, you're saying that you don't want friends, so none of this matters.

 

I have been to dozens of parties with them. Been drunk with them. Hugged them, kissed them. Kissed their sisters. Spent a hundred recesses/classes with them. University lectures. The only growing that has been going on is growing apart. I won't meet other people through them. They are the best of their bunch.

I had no trouble meeting people when travelling. I would like to have this experience again, and go see all the friends that I met while abroad.

 

Well, go and travel some more then.

Maybe you should just get out of town and move somewhere else.

 

I have a spare bed in my room!

 

I used to be like you. I would have treated someone with no friends with skepticism, given them over-simplistic advice like "go somewhere else" and imagined that they were making too many excuses and not going about things the right way.

But I am not like other people. I have health problems that make things complicated, from travel, to socializing, and I am also completely insane, in a completely rational and responsible way. I am not your average, loner emo and I am not misanthropic. I am well past that stage.

You're probably not actually accusing me of any of those things, but still, I like your advice better when its well thought out.

 

I think that you are reading WAY too much into what I'm writing.

I'm merely making conversation, not even trying to give advice.

 

people should have friends

straight up

 

Not trying but doing. Its an instinctive thing. People don't even know they're doing it. My dad said it himself - Thats how conversation works, you have opinions and you judge people, and tell them what to do. I am inclined to disagree that that is what conversation is all about, but sadly, most of it is.

 

Well, you do judge people, but "judging" has a very negative connotation attached to it. A lot of judging can actually be rather positive.

But all in all, do whatever you want, I'm not trying to give you advice. All I'm saying is that you can find friends you can truly relate to if you actually want to.

 

When you say things like that, it sounds like you're assuming that I am too dumb to know that already, which is why I insist on trying to convince you otherwise.

 

Yet again, no.

I'm simply giving you some encouragement or whatever you might call it since you're a good guy and you deserve some good friends.

 

I would be your friend, but you would probably be mean and not share...

 

I think you should wait until you get a couple of drinks in you or take a couple valium until you go out and attempt to socialize.

(just assuming you might be easier to deal with.)

:cheers2:

 

that's what i'm talking about! Knock back 14 beers and everyone loves ya!

 

Thankyou. I am very picky about what people say, and I get paranoid that they're judging me. I don't really know why.

I have lots of friends, just not here. Its sad because I really like this place.

 

i didn't read any of this thread.. i just wanted to say.. big fuckin' deal. i ain't had friends in years.

 

You should make a whole lot of money and fly all of them in.