It pisses me off...

ohhhh i know about that one. i've had guys snap their fingers at me, like they're calling their servant. or that kissy noise like when you're calling a dog or cat.

speaking of not having respect, i especially hate it when guys hit on you, ask if you're single, and when you say you have a boyfriend, they're just like, "oh hey, you're free game then!"

 

i agree with you. it goes back to what you said earlier, about there being a good and bad way to go about it. and look at the word kc used: address. addressing someone implies that you see the other person as an individual being. when you make someone feel like a piece of meat, you're not considering them to be worthy of human treatment. that's not addressing someone, that's yelling at them. there's nothing wrong with addressing someone else. most women won't be offended if they're addressed.. but if they're belittled and objectified, that's never gonna fly. so objectifying and heckling others is best avoided... addressing others should be encouraged. kind of like in the south, when people always say hi to strangers.. there's nothing crude about it. in fact, it's rude to keep your eyes on the ground and ignore those who pass by.

 

i hate when guys do that about half the time, sometimes it can be flattering. but a lot of the time it freaks me out.

 

I don't mind it most of the time. When I'm working out at the gym and I'm running a get a lot of what I'd call bouncage, hell let people look, it makes me work harder. If the guy is attractive it just makes me want to shake my hips and smile more.

But there are certain times that it can make me uncomfortable. If I'm in a crowded store or area and I get that kind of treatment it makes me scared because there is so much going on that no one wil notice if things start to go wrong.

 

RE: If the guy is attractive

I've heard this more than once. Why is it that only attractive guys can stare at you?

 

i hope attractive doesn't mean the "man-whore" type... you know, the guys in the $30 "vintage" t-shirt who spend too much time on their hair. "i'm gods gift to women, you should be honored that i'm hitting on you! i'm entitled to make comments about your tits!" confidance is attractive, but if a guy gets arrogant about his looks, that's a huge turn-off.

 

I don't care how you meant it. Why is it OK for an "attractive" guy to stare at you but not an unattractive guy?

"I object to being objectified, unless he has a cute little butt." Yeah, OK, there, Heather....

 

I didn't say it... but i'd be interested in hearing the answer, too.

 

I didn't mean to offend anyone! I just meant someone that I find attractive, not the guy that every girl goes around saying is cute. Either way it's nice to be given that kind of attention, all I meant was that if the guy was attractive to me I might go up to him or something.

I certainly did not mean anything about anyone's right to stare or anything like that.

 

RE: Either way it's nice to be given that kind of attention, all I meant was that if the guy was attractive to me I might go up to him or something.

None taken - but it's just that you appear to say that it's OK if you find me attractive, which is weird.

 

**Self Edit**

Delete..

 

I remember when I was in 10th grade, my parents picked me up from school and a car full of horny assholes drove up in the car next to us and started making all these offensive comments and telling my mom and dad that they 'have a NICE daughter!' I remember how much I wanted to barf.

 

Well said - also far more likely to be effective (grin)

 

oh bull. seriously, you don't want a woman anyway. women are nothing but money grubbing castrators of the american male.

but if you DO want to meet a woman, there's far better ways than making overtures to a woman walking alone downt the street whose probably been abused by passing cars and men too many times to take you seriously.

 

Oh shit here we go. Not all women but some i grant you, men have similarities. But don't go overboard.

 

Actually, This is quite true. They would be yelling something completely different trust me. Before I lost all of my weight I had that happen. Didn't help that I lived in a college town so the only place to jog was around a bunch of immature brain dead frat retards. However, they could be yelling at you "hey fat ass run faster, omg there is an earthquake", or something of that nature that would completely destroy all self esteem one has built up.

I'm not saying that men should be yelling anything, or anyone should be making comments, but yeah, it would have been nice to have someone yell something to boost my ego back then.

Doesn't matter though because I don't pay any attention to anyone else or what they say or think. It took me a long time to get to this place, but now I could care less what you think I look like when I'm exercising. I mean at least we are out there taking care of ourselves and they are sitting on their asses going through the drive through.

 

That element is just as evil to men as women, you know...

 

Probably for the same reason guys don't catcall ugly women.

 

LOL, I wouldn't be so sure about that. I've seen men catcall what I found to not be a very attractive woman. Actually, sometimes I think that there are guys out there (not the majority mind you, as I don't think the majority of men catcall) that just yell at women regardless of what they look like; just because they are women and they want to see how many reactions they can get. Like "made you look" kind of game. People do strange things sometimes. I haven't got the time to analyze why.

I must admit when I was a teenager we used to yell at people out the window, but it wasn't catcalling and it wasn't putting people down, mostly it was us being stupid kids. We would be like hey you got any beer/weed, then drive off.

 

Heh, you should feel rather lucky... I get people who stare at me and ask me if I'm a boy or a girl... Sometimes, they say I'm sick or messed up...