Is this wrong?

in theory, that sounds nice...I think she'll definitely consider that rape.

I used to get alot of that at the beginning and now I have to wait bout every 3 months. I think I'm in the 4th month of waiting for that head and ride.

I dont understand her, I offer head all the time and get shot down and this is the type of head that always had her trying to run til I pull her back in and have sayin I cant take it anymore.

 

Where have you looked?

 

Ive looked nowhere...dont believe in having an affair. If your unsatisfied, verbally say it. If no changes are made on the other parties side, leave.

Also I believe in karma.

 

There. Then you can look for the kind of sex you want.

 

Its useless in the end anyway. You're 26, so I assume she's the same age or a little younger. She says no kids at the moment and you are more concerned with sex rather than kids.

But give it another 5 years, both of you thinking about family more. Its going to click with you, well how to I get to a whole bunch of kids with a girl that doesnt like sex, or is still more focused on using sex to get what she wants, still too self involved. What kind of a mother is she going to be if she's still more concerned about what she can get rather than the kids. If things are pissing you off now, you can times that by ten when the kids start.

I'll acknowledge to our female audience that we've only heard one side of the story, so it might not be this way.

But if it is, its not a battle of the sexes thing. Plenty of deadbeat husbands / fathers out there. But you wife just sounds like one of those lasy ass ones that expect the hubby to do everything for her which. Its a big red flag for whats to come. Do you really want it to be like this and on top of that a couple kids in the picture and her sitting around on her ass whilst you do more than your fair share

Its all bullshit, has nothing to do with the battle of the sexes, nothing to do with guys if you see one mother sitting around the coffee shop with her friends for 3 hours gasbagging, sitting on the couch all the time, never wants to go out.....and in comparison other mothers that are always organising family and social events, always on the go, take the kid for a jog in the souped up pram and working part time cos she knows they have to chip away at the mortgage so they can have a better life later on, so theres more money down the track to send the kids to college.

Stick with one of the lazy ones and you are just going to fuck yourself over and over, and not just now, when the kids come, when you retire with no money....and end up fucking over the kids as well. 30 years time you've got no money for retirement cos she never did anything, spent too much on herself with the kids starting off a career as a Refrigerator repairman, rather than accountant.........In the end cos you were such a pussy

 

we'll thank you, that depressed the shit out of me, although it is likely to happen. BTW, she older than me, 30.

 

WHAT? Haha! In my experience most girls don't mind, and a lot of girls actually like it! I only had one girlfriend who didn't like it, and only like 2 or 3 randoms wouldn't.

Yes, that is fucked up man. That is some bullshit. I find that extremely provocative, actually.

What, for ANOTHER FIVE YEARS? :smilielol5:

WTF? :smilielol5: Hold on a few more years! Meanwhile, don't watch any porn! Oh yeah, and don't express that you are attracted to your wife and want to have sex with her!

I can't believe the amount of people who jumped to defend this woman, even on page 1 of the thread it seemed to me like the OP has been completely reasonable, hell, more than reasonable, I would not have put up with that shit for sure.

This was my first thought too man.

She wants to be a housewife with no kids, who doesn't really do any chores, and she doesn't want to have sex. That's not a housewife, that's just a parasite! A housewife is, in essence, an exclusive prostitute. At least one without children to take care of.

So, what is she bringing to the table? It's obvious she doesn't care about your wants, and if she is sending you flirty texts while you're at work and then won't do anything about it, it sounds like she's deliberately trying to frustrate you.

I admire your patience, but there comes a point when you are just being a pushover. Vanilla's last post was spot on, nothing good will come of this. It sounds like she is just trying to condition you, constantly testing the boundaries and stretching them, and I can't imagine that you are going to be any happier in 10-20 years of this (I'd bet you would be absolutely miserable, actually.)

 

Finally, someone who`s got the balls to come right out and say it. No offense to prostitutes, of course. Even though, it might be better yet not to say it and simply understand it.

Really? To me it sounds like he just wants a pity party, but gets off on being submissive.

 

Yea, dont want/need a pity party. I'm submissive to her wants because she's the female of the relationship and my thought process is thinking if I give her what she wants then I'll get what I want. We see how far thats gotten me. I'm just looking advice since I cant afford a marriage counselor due to having to pay for the bills other than rent.

The only person "getting me off" is myself.

 

Fuck off with your emotional blackmail. I`m not your wife, and I don`t have to pity party you. You`ve made your bed, now sleep in it.

 

You are right, I didn't go back to check, that should have said "in the first few pages"

You will never be happy if you depend on other people for happiness.

 

i made the bed last night, slept rather terrible.

as for emotional blackmail, isnt that what part of a marriage is, blackmailing and bargaining. Dont "pity party" me then, but thanks for replying.

 

Apologies, but it sounds like thats whats needed.

As I said, its not a battle of the sexes thing. Its just ones like your wife. Just because no one else bothers arguing with them ( including other girls that have a libido or get their ass off the couch) doesnt mean anyone agrees with them.

Just run before there are kids involved, if its like this now, how on earth is it going to get better? You only have one life

 

Not a healthy marriage, no. The point of being in a relationship is to love someone, not to exploit and use them, or to use emotional leverage to get what you want. In a healthy relationship, people give each other what they want because they want to, not because they expect something in return.

 

I like your sense of humor. Best of luck, buddy. :biggrin:

In my opinion they are. Marriage is a dish best served cold. Hence, the wild success of arranged marriages with dowries, compared to the feminist "love marriage" (and, the bizarre expectation that men be monogamous) of the 60s onward in the West (by their own standard of success: longevity).

You gotta hold your end of the bargain, and that`s not what she`s doing. And, it seems, the L word is thrown around precisely by chicks who have no intention of holding their end.

The L word is primarily used nowadays, as a blanket excuse to get away with all kinds of manipulation and abuse, I seem to observe.

 

Where can I find one of those at, tell me eBay sells them.

 

Exactly, she is consistent with texting me every work day saying she loves me but I often think how much. I hate how to cliche, "you could love someone but not be in love with them" applies.

 

lol! With a sense of humor like that, the last thing you need is a woman weighing you down. Would your wife appreciate little flurries of irony like that? I`d bet against it. Sarah Silverman isn`t married for a reason.

Whenever I hear the L word, I assume golddigger until proven innocent. That includes Jehovah`s Witness door-to-door foot soldiers and the like.

 

LMAO!!! Yea she doesnt like my humor sometimes, its a mix of family guy, daniel tosh and always sunny in Philadelphia.

Gold diggers are better givers than my wife, well I think they are. They OFFER something in exchange. I read a book called Marriage Mayhem where the female character was a ex crackhead/gold digger. According to the book she gave the greatest head, something like Karine Stephens good.

 

Arranged marriages aren't successful because there is a dowry involved, but because there is no romanticism involved. Romantic love is by its very definition flawed, unrealistic. And it spawns very much a "give in order to receive" mentality. Whereas with an arranged marriage, there is not too much in the way of unrealistic expectation, and there is a greater sense of commitment. Any relationship takes hard work, in the romantic western world, as soon as things get a bit tough, it's very easy - and socially acceptable - to opt for the easy way out and get divorced. Meanwhile, with arranged marriages, that's not a socially acceptable option and people will stay together despite having problems, and work harder to get through those problems.

I'm sure a lot of people use the L word in all sorts of manipulative ways, but that's just a symptom of an unhealthy relationship, and the fact that people use love as an excuse to get away with things doesn't take away from the merit of genuine love and affection. Not all relationships are dysfunctional, bro.

I found mine while traveling, I doubt you will find many good women not tainted by the romantic expectations of the western world, in the western world.