is this too much info

:cheers2:
i tottaly agree with u hands down

 

frankly I dont care about SG anymore. live her life, get herpes, whatever floats her boat


but

good relationships arnt based just on sex. hes gonna look at her and says shes a sex freak and hes gonna run

but

im not changing myself for somebody. never would i. I just grew up meeting him and seeing myself different and i found myself wanting to get serious and waiting on sex. I changed my ways because I realized it was hurting me emotionally that I wasnt getting something more. and he made me realize that

and SG i hope you meet a good guy like that because you will find that casual sex gets old in tiime and you'll want a guy to respect you non-sexually too. You may be happy now but later on, you wont

 

You don't know that though, my friend Natalie has never had a serious relationship, she has many casual partners and is very happy. She never has anyone to answer too and she lives her life just as she wants too. She's 37 now and isn't planning on changing any time soon.

That being said, there is a line up of men waiting for her if she does decide to settle down, they don't care how many partners she's had. They love her because she's a great person.

 

Just as long as she stays clean

 

I have to agree with you. I don't see why SG is being so hostile to your advice. Its just advice you can take it or leave it. This is a girl who went through what you are going through now and regrets it. She just wants to make sure you don't regret it someday. Maybe someday you will realise that and if having multiple sex partners makes you happy go ahead. Someday that may not be the case. That being said I think you should be honest with all your lovers. Take their feelings into consideration and don't lie to them about eachother. If you want free love fine, but don't force you lovers into that. Give them a choice to join in on being free or to escape it it they choose to do so. It wouldn't be fair if you didn't.

 

Clean as a bar of soap :cheers2:

 

thats what hurts me the most. they dont know about it and if she does catches something and give it to them then oh shit

 

my lovers have all been checked before i mess with them
im thr type of girl that is cclean
and im not afraid to ask for a std check test things

 

thats cool good for her

 

Well, it often happens when someone's advice begins with, "you're nasty."

But it does not follow that everyone would regret it. People do the same sorts of things for all different kinds of reasons, with all different kinds of goals.

Are you sure that's her only motivation? Why do you think so?

Here, we agree.

And, since SG does what she wants and does not do what she does not want, if that day ever comes, she will know what to do about it.

Yes, and this has been said many times (even by me) and SG has agreed that she will.

There's no one in the world so hated as someone who is free from the chains of needing other people's approval.

 

You are hurt? Really?

Hurt?

 

Free Love is everyones right. Your a straight pimp hahaha but in a good way. You just have 2 know that if you do tell the truth, you did all you could do. You did the right thing. If the relationship ends because you told the truth its not your fault. Its tough. But things end everyday you just really have to love the time you already spent together. Its a hard lesson to learn.

Good Luck and God Bless for sure

 

thank u for replying to my thread
u put it well

 

word, you need to tell the dude

what you do is your prerogative, but what he does is also based on your prerogatives as well, and when you are deceiving what your prerogatives really are, then you are just hurtin the dude. you may not know, though - maybe he is cool with you hookin up with other guys while you are on breaks.

 

yes im hurt. for the guys not for her. I gave her my advice. I been through what shes going through. Thought sleeping with guys was chill until they backstabbed me. or wanted a relationship and thats what these guys are eventually going to do

shes going to regret it or she might not. we'll find out

 

im thinking i will tell him if he ask

 

i dont think ill regret it
time tells all

 

no just tell him. guys are lame at catching hints.

 

A break is a break. If he doesn't know what a break is, he's fooling himself.

 

your very right. shes just young and stupid.

im a guy and i know how guys minds work. guys fuck sluts and then fuck them off, and think of them in a very poorly way. if a girl has morals and doesnt fuck straight away or whatever, the guy will have respect for her, and wont treat her like a little slut.

whether you beleive it or not i bet every guy who knows u just talks down on you to their friends. there saying "im gonna go fuck that slut again".

u wont get treated with the respect a person deserves untill u get some morals and treat yourself better.