I don't like to ejaculate, I feel empty and dead inside for almost a week after. I just edge, several times and it is quite satisfying if I can resist the orgasm. Does anyone know if doing this forever is going to cause problems?
The feeling after is not worth the pleasure, and believe it or not, it does cause the need for sex to go away.
I don't think edging is unhealthy, but feeling dead inside for a week after ejaculating is a little concerning.
Masturbation can turn into a sexual addiction. Men are more likely to masturbate than women. It is said that, " Some people-males, for the most part-spend several hours each day engaged in masturbation, reading or viewing pornography, participating in sex-related online chat rooms, using commercial phone sex services, seeking casual sex partners in bars, cruising the streets for prostitutes, or having anonymous sex with partners in brothel houses or sex clubs" (Levay & Baldwin. 2012, p. 536). Masturbation can often lead to divorce if the partner is always looking for porn web sites and not paying attention to his wife or girlfriend. Although men see masturbation as normal, sometimes they notice the reality of the situation, "They feel they have lost control of their own behavior" (Levay & Baldwin. 2012, p. 536). Sometimes its hard for men to admit that they have a masturbating problem and this could be because they don't want to tell their partner or make their partner feel like they are not attracted to them anymore. That is not the case, the case is that when addicted to sex men have to find other means to satisfy themselves even if it is masturbation. This does not mean that their sex life is not good enough, this is just a disorder that men can develop and can also get help from a sex therapist to cure this disorder. So, for men to think that masturbation is normal, they should think about long term repercussions if and when masturbation develops into a daily habit.
The original question of being healthy to resist ejaculation from masturbation will come with a lot of good arguments. Some say there are issues such as decreased sexual pleasure, anxiety about sex, the inability to conceive, or male infertility. Others advise there are no issues as the body will naturally expel and/or absorb ejaculate without the need for sexual stimulation. The OP writes that he feels empty and dead inside after ejaculation. He goes on to write that his feeling after is not worth the pleasure he derives from ejaculation or orgasm and it causes the desire for sex to diminish. Being that he posts this question in the masturbation section makes me wonder if he gets this same feeling when having sex by other than masturbation. Either way there is an issue and that has to do with his hormonal balance. The imbalance is an issue that needs to be investigated as long term it will affect his life and general physiology. Go seek medical help with this as one should feel very satisfied and content after orgasm and then shortly following, no more than a day or two, should be wanting to engage in sex again. The post that claims masturbation can turn into a sexual addiction is incorrect. Sexual addiction will drive one towards masturbation if the desire cannot be satisfied through other channels. The quote from Levay & Baldwin. 2012, p. 536 does not support this statement but actually supports sex addiction and claims masturbation as a result of them losing control of their behavior. The post is correct in that sometimes its hard for men to admit that they have a masturbating problem. The post then contradicts itself by stating that when addicted to sex men have to find other means to satisfy themselves even if it is masturbation. This is true and shows that masturbation does not lead to addiction. The posts final statement that for men to think that masturbation is normal is correct as it is a normal function of the humans sexual make up. The issue is the post makes it as if masturbation is not normal and will cause trouble in ones life. This would be true if masturbation always led to divorce and the person is always looking for porn web sites and not paying attention to his sexual partners. But in many cases masturbation can enhance ones sexual lifestyle by allowing them to explore and learn what makes them feel good. That knowledge can be passed on to their sexual partner for increased pleasure during sex. The bottom line is that masturbation to orgasm is a normal healthy function of ones sex life and should be encouraged in order for one to learn about themselves sexually. If issues arise such as the OP's then medical intervention should be obtained.
I believe in regular prostate maintenance and the health benefits it brings me. If I would edge like the OP but never flushed my pipes my balls would burst. I believe it would lead to an enlarged prostate as well which brings its own set of complications. A full release eases my mind and helps manage stress. I gotta believe it's necessary for most guys including the OP. As to the OP stating he has no energy I can only share my experience. I didn't discover I had sleep apnea until I was 39 in 2002. My sexual activity started fairly young and never stopped even though I was overly tired all the time after sex and most other common activities. Through a sleep study it was determined I was never getting REM sleep (the crucial restorative phase of 5 sleep phases) my body, mind and soul needed just to survive. I'd sleep 8 hours but never knew what is was like to dream and never felt refreshed the next day even though I thought I had just slept 8 hours. The doctors felt I was getting at most two hours of sleep a night and it was quite likely this had been the case going back to my teens. It was becoming a matter of life or death. I'd stop breathing every 45 seconds but never knew it. My body would then wake itself up which I also never knew. I was put on CPAP and with other therapy have reached a point where I actually feel energized most days after getting the REM sleep I need. Prior to being diagnosed I was being treated for chronic depression without knowing that that was likely the result of my sleep disorder among other things. I was a snorer and my family couldn't take it anymore. However, not all scorers have sleep apnea and not all who have sleep apnea snore. I no longer snore because of CPAP. I'd suggest to the OP a sleep study be done. My sleep doctor is a neurologist. Even if not sleep apnea it could one of dozens of sleep / brain disorders causing the problem. During the study your brainwaves and signals to the rest of your body are tested. You really shouldn't get as tired as I was unless there is some medical cause for it that only a MD can address.
I have been denying myself orgasm for several years now, I couldn’t imagine it any other way, orgasm was just messing with my mood way to much
Why the fuck would you want to deny yourself an orgasam? There’s no better felling than ejaculation, why would you deny yourself that pleasure? Like the above poster said, you shouldn’t be wanking.
I just sent Mr 61 a conversation about the condition he described. For everyone above I stumbled onto articles online about a rare medical condition known as Postorgasmic Illness Syndrome (POIS). It basically means a male is allergic to his own semen. Guys with it quickly develop a number of symptoms that last upwards of a week, including the fatigue symptom Mr 61 has described. Guys who have POIS don't show symptoms if they don't ejaculate. It's treatable and treatment is highly effective according to what I read.
As long as it works for you go nuts! For me I need a total release when edging no longer applies. Even then the longest I've edged was 6 to 7 hours at which point my cum oozed out like lava pretty much without me doing a thing. Now that sensation felt awesome!
I hope it's healthy, I've masturbated every day since I was 11 , even when in long term relationships (female only) at 74 i masturbate more now than ever and feel great