Is This Alot To Ask A Girl To Do After You're Getting Serious...

So i've known this girl for four years. We were always friends but since she had a bf for mostly all the time I knew her, I kept my distance and sort of let things unfold naturally. About five months ago, they broke up. After alot of drama, and bs, and on and off stuff. I'm sort of aware of it all since she was a friend the whole time and we talked about stuff.

So now the last two months we been seeing each other ALOT, and about three weeks ago made it official.


I know she has photos of her and her ex up on fb publically. Like not just being friends pics but ones that obviously show she was in love with the guy with captions I don't enjoy reading.
If I didn't know better i'd think she was still with him, since there's not much mention of me.

At first I didn't really care, I didn't know what was going to happen between us. Didn't know if it was even going to get serious.
But we are now, or trying to be,,, so I asked her if she could take them down cause why would her bf want to see those really?

I've had ex's as well and tha last thing I want to do is show off pics of me and her and how great things were then, especially to someone i'm currently trying to make it work with.


But apparently they mean alot to her and are great memories and great times. But I think she still has love for him in some way.


Am I being crazy or is she not telling me something?

 

Because it's on social media I would not take it too seriously. However people can be protective of their online persona's. I would tell her that you want to post pictures on your own social media; i.e. your twitter, or your facebook, or your instagram. Don't worry too much about hers. If you're pouring it on correctly I think she should follow suit. If she doesn't seem to catch on after about two weeks of this behavior, then you might mention to her that you don't like her old pics.

 

post pics of what on my own page? Like of us you mean?

And I already told her i don't like em. I actually did an asshole thing and pressed "Like" on one of them after we kinda talked about it.... she wasn't happy. But whatever..

i been looking at them forever now and i had no reason to get like this about it. I feel i should sort of have some say now though..

She just seems really defensive about keeping them.. like if she got rid of em she's finally moving on. And she don't want to.

I thought she'd be more than willing to take them down to be honest.

 

Ask her when you guys are going to post pictures of the two of you?

 

oh dude...that is so weak.....be a man and stay off her facebook and ignore all social media in regards to your ol lady


try to remember a break up doesnt erase awesome times had in the past...you are not important enough in her life to ask her to eraase all memories she has

you have likely already fucked it up....apologize and hope for the best

 

one sure way to ''be cool'' these days is to ignore facebook...delete your account....pretend it doesnt exist......

 

Rollin, the last person i would get girl advice from is you. If I want some cocks in my ass, i'll get in touch.

 

Take a few cute selfies with her and post them on your Facebook.

To be honest, I still have a few pictures of my extra and I somewhere on Facebook. I took off the really corny ones, but there are still a few albums from lik 2007, of him an I, on various trips and stuff. We travelled a lot th last year we were together. Anyways, they don't really bother me or my husband. I was bigger in those days, and not as happy as I am now.

Try and think about this in a different way. This girl is with YOU now, not him. There is a reason for that. Just try, as hard as it might be, to be cool and confident about the whole thing. I don't think she's going to leave you and go back to this guy, and if she did, then she's not the right girl for you.

Women like men who are confident. If you don't make this picture thing a big deal, then it won't be a big deal. Also, you've only been with her three weeks. I'm sure once she falls in love with you, her Facebook will be loaded with pictures of the two of you.

 

The only reason I have facebook is for band and music purposes, and that's the only social media i do have. Nothing else.
I don't take it too seriously but it's still something ya got to look at.

SoulComp: I will ask her that soon for sure. I'm sure she won't have anything against it, but just feels like i'm being annoying as fuck about it now.

 

Thanks Ash great advice

 

We have tons of selfies, mostly not appropriate for facebook though, hah.

 

that is also weak.....you seem to be quite the weakling......weak and jealous....ouch.........haha

 

if your ol lady read this thread she would dump your pathetic ass pdq

 

Nothing wrong with being a bit jealous.
I mean you're jealous right now that all you can fuck is your hand and I'm getting laid daily.
Maybe one day Rollin you'll know what it's like

 

but yeah just to be clear, I wasn't asking delete all existence of her ex. I understand he meant something to her and it was a long time!
But to have several of them as your main profile pic just kinda bugs me slightly.


Anyway i feel i'm being even more annoying about this now! It just has my head kinda messed up after the last couple days.

 

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the ex boyfriend must be laughing at you right along with me.....it couldnt be more obvious,,,you are the dude she using to make buddy jealous so he comes back.......you should check the ex's facebook page for the real pics

 

Lolzzzzz


Yeah only listen to advice about girls from girls...youll get far with that

 

Be annoying and jealous all you want, just make sure she doesn't know about it. All you have to do is keep your cool while she is around....what she doesn't know.....

 

Pfftt, as if she doesnt know already

 

It's a tough one in this digital age I guess.

My boyfriend has pics of him and his ex on facebook, I don't really care.

Even though I only split with my ex almost a year ago, I have zero pictures of us together other than actual photographs that are easy to put away, THAT'S how long we were unhappy.

Your situation is very different to mine but I do not think it is unreasonable to ask for her to put the pictures in an album just for her if she wants to remember happy times with her ex. Asking for complete deletion is not fair.