i'm a really empathic person, and i usually develop mental connections with people that i'm around a lot anyways, *but* i dont have this connection with my husband, whom i've been with for almost a decade. he's connected to me in a big way. he always knows what's going on in my head. i dont bother playing cards with him cause he always knows what's in my hand. i played mastermind with him two or three times and he guess the pattern the first try every time. He's so in my head. but i'm am totally disconnected from him. it's horrible. i usually know who's on the phone before i answer it. i *always* know what's going on with my son. hell, most of the time on these BB's, i know when someone's responding to a thread of mine. but my dearest life companion, i have no clue about. i can read his body language just fine, but i cant feel him mentally. we were talking about this last night and he thought that maybe there's a way that i can learn to open up to him, or he thought that maybe i've somehow put up a block to keep from feeling him. <shrug> i dunno.