Is there a problem with being single?

I feel so free when I am single. The beginning of a relationship can give you wonderful feelings in your tummy about things, but I am not cut out for a solid partnership at this time since I am wanting to just do crazy things all the time and not have to answer to people about it.

 

for a guy whos been single his whole life, i gotta say that its been pretty alright. personally i would love to start a relationship and all that gas, but i just haven't found someone i connected to closely enough. i say, dont go into a relationship just to be in relationship, but when the time comes and it feels right, go right in!

 

You're not far off... but it has to more than "feel right"... having the hots for a beautiful woman feels oh so right but a trek through a dysfunctional relationship or two will tell you that it has to more than feel right. It takes not only finding someone who is compatible but also some soul-searching to find the ability to set your own selfishness aside... something I've always fallen short in. Most people are able to set aside their selfishness better than myself.

 

I would rather wait to be with the right person than date people just for the sake of dating. I think being single has a lot of benefits. I also agree with the comment about there being more of a problem when one is dependent on a relationship.

 

There is never a problem with something unless you think its a problem. For me its definitely a problem.

 

Well at least you don't have your family, friends, and other individuals that you talk to on a regular basis ask you if you are homosexual. And it is only worse because I live in a backward-ass, hick town......so I'm "going to hell." *shrugs* I don't date because I can't make myself deal with other people's bullshit. Sure sometimes I think I would like to be in a relationship, but then I stop and think of what I would have to put up with.....my 8 year single streak is going on strong.

 

Some groups like to push marriage on people and feel insecure about other people being single. Pat Robertson of the 700 club once ran a clip promoting marriage. Through the whole thing they played Eric Carmen's 'All By Myself' as the backdrop music.

Conservative religious groups often seem the most frustrated about people not getting married and having babies. Some of that insecurity stems from a phobia that other religions that they feel are competing with them are going to out-populate Christianity and make it extinct. Some of it also stems from homophobia, as if someone being single might be homosexual.

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There's nothing wrong with being single... there is something wrong with being in a relationship that you want out of.

 

Woids of wisdom...

 

thanx

 

Topic Creator: I'm glad you brought up such a topic. If you ask me, I think it's very stupid how many view the norm of couples as one being satiable with their life. Personally, I'm happy single as I am, because I have lots things to deal with by myself, so another person involved honestly seems scary. I quiver at the idea of me having a girlfriend with feelings that I have to keep under strict observation, to be so careful not to screw things up. Girls are so fragile, you could make the most trivial mistake, and that will set the growth of the relationship back a couple steps. Perhaps my outlook on relationships is pessimistic, but still I'm too obsessed and occupied by my own thoughts to bother starting anything remotely serious with a girl. Choosing to be single actually is a big sign of independence, meaning that you don't have to rely on a female's charm to be complacent with where and how your life is.

 

i havent been single in like 6 years. everytime my relationships end i wind up in another one almost straight away.

i wouldnt mind being single, it'd be fun to have no strings. but i do enjoy the companionship and friendship a lot. its more fun to go through life with a best friend/lover. and sleazy guys leave me alone when im taken

 

I see no problem in it at all and actually I'd rather be single any day. Being in love is an amazing thing but so is independence. I never want a LEGAL marriage (another thing in life the government has no right to be in control of) because a) There are so many things in life I want to figure out on my own b) I don't have to go through a nasty divorce.

And even having just a boyfriend right now - no time

Society puts such a high standard for people to live up to but the thing is that you dont have to.

Oh and one more thing...

Free Love.