Is Romantic Love Dead?

A lot of people got married just because of a pregnancy. That is not a good basis for a lasting relationship. Also money is usually a problem for one person, or both. That equals divorce.

I have a great love, we lived together before marriage to try things out and we are both good with money.

 

You both are very fortunate. He sounds like a great guy, loving guy and you...I adore you. I'm so sorry to hear you have to deal with problems, big problems. You are a strong woman. Actually you inspire me. If you can joke and make light of things even when you are dealing with lots of pain I know I have it in me to do the same.

 

Yep, thats why I got married the first time. I tought I loved him. But the day I got married, I thought, "well, I can always get a divorce" He was starting to change and he was the only person who mattered in his life. I saw it happening but had this stupid optomistic idea that it would get better

many heartaches later, I left.

Tis ok because I learned through all the dark stuff to love myself.

 

That's HUGE!

and very awesome

 

i feel like that too. only when im away from him, i feel i dont love him. but when i am with him, all those feelings of doubt go away

 

it is huge. I need to be knocked around and beaten to get my lessons sometimes

thanks!

 

Yeah, it's dead.

According to my boyfriend...

 

i don't think love can exist for people who are primarily concerned with what's in it for them.

 

though a certain degree of self-interest is good.

 

sure it still exists, its just not as popular as it was 20-30 years ago. Lots of people dont realize the 'stick together through thick and thin' they just give up and get a divorce cause they're not completely satisfied with marriage. But you get a couple once in a blue moon that stay together because they truly love each other. My parents been married for 22 years now. and they are still happily in love

 

that's all pretty true- when you fall in love it's a chemical reaction happening in your brain to get the two people to stay together and have kids.

And the thing is that people can't watch romantic movies or read stories and have 'love' defined for them, 'cause they'll be looking for it as the media defines it. that's why a lot of people quickly marry and divorce, because they're looking for never-ending romance instead of just pure love. they don't realize that in a relationship, romance fluctuates while real love always sticks. they see the romance start to fade and think that they're falling out of love, leading to a breakup/divorce