Is Romance Dead?

but i am fat.

and i do not have low self esteem!! (um not much)

 

yes i am... i look less fat with clothes on

 

So romance is not dead. It's just been grossly debilitated by all of the snobby females and idiotic men that decide to be assholes to increase their chances of getting laid instead of being chivalrous and romantic to find long-term relationships.

However, I have found romance in a SHY, CHUBBY, NOT CONVENTIONALLY HANDSOME man. It happens.

 

i signed up for kick boxing today!!

 

ive always wanted to do regular boxing cause i have a lot of pent up aggresion but they dont have that so kick boxing will have to do.

should be fun.

 

its not like any particular capacity that people have is dead , the thing is that this last several thousand year mistake called civilization , with its equaly obnoxious overcoat capitalism ...is in its death throws ......im afraid a lot of whats nessecary to live a real and human life exists in only twisted and paracitized forms ...but not for much longer .

 

i did that once and my neighbor banged on the ceiling

 

Romance is dead. Love still exists, but romance has no place in this world, its just a phony thing to help us love our existence.

 

no im not.

 

everything we do to sooth the pain of whats being done to us ......stregthens our masters .....you cant punch a tar baby ....you must toss a molatov from a respectable distance .....it is bitter , the bread baked by slaves !

 

nope, not dead

but you can't expect it to be one-sided, you gotta do good things for your partner to get good things back, do romantic things to have them do romantic things for you too

unbalanced/onesided relationships inevitably fail

 

im surrounded by fucking zombies .....im slightly confused myself ......its not a very romantic senerio .....hard to warm my dishevelled self up to any of the zombies i meet ......im trying anyway .

 

why such a pessimist?

 

i didnt really believe in real romance. but over the years ive been shown the light. and it is indeed still alive.

 

Gather around my children. Booshnoogs is about to school you people on romance.

Romance is, and always was an illusion. There was a time where guys had to make grand romantic gestures in order to impress a woman enough to have sex with her. There were plenty of societal pressures for women to be viewed as chaste, so men had to put forth vast amounts of effort to show that his affection for a woman was real, strong, and long lasting. Only then would he get some play. Additionally, in some relationships, he had to continue to put forth that effort year after year in order to keep getting rewarded with sex. (Ever noticed how a guy will start doing nice things if he's trying to get some?)

Of course, we live in more enlightened times now. It no longer causes a scandal if a woman is not a virgin when she gets married. Plus, if a guy wants to get some sex, romance is no longer required. Simply go to the nearest bar, and hit on the first girl you see downing tequila shots. Since men no longer have to put forth the effort, we no longer see an abundance of romantic behavior. Romance is now mainly reserved for apologetic uses. (Sorry I didn't come home last night baby, here are some flowers and a poem).

 

I was waiting for someone to put forth their idea of what romance actually is (TY boosh), i was hoping this discussion could have been a little deeper but the responses have been interesting to read, thank you all.

I am still interested in what others perceive romance to be (and dont use a dictionary meaning).

Perhaps romance is a theatrical expression of affection, love and/or lust? or perhaps romance is no more then a romanticized (hehe) form of picking up? what do you think?

 

romance is taking the time to know whats in someone else's heart...
im not falling for some preconceived idea of what that means to people .. but for me the most romantic moments of my life were when i felt like somebody was actually seeing me and they wanted to make me smile in a soft and unexpected way

pulling the car over on a long trip to get out and dance on the side of the road...
sharing a comfortable silence with eyes locked in some sort of dreamy trance...surprises are nice but the little everyday romances hold the secrets to love..imo, waking up and loving the sleepy look in your partners eyes... brushing the hair from their face to kiss them and wish them a great day... taking time to make someone feel loved.. that's what romance is to me..

 

I like Drawring's definition. It seems easy and natural.

Maybe I need to hang out with different people, but usually when I hear a girl say that she wants to be romanced, she means that she wants a guy to spend money and effort making her feel special.

Drawrings definition is much nicer. I'm going to adopt that as my new definition too.

 

why thank you booshnoogs

it should be natural... what does money have to do with romance.. yea i know what society makes of it but getting back to raw emotion.. passion ... just wanting to feel somebody else inside and out.... thats way better then diamonds and pearls... i have sat under the stars and breathed in deep the sent of love
its a beautiful thing that shouldn't be over looked.... romance is there when your not to busy looking for it
hmm.. did that make sense

 

yeah, in a hippy commy kind of way.

No, I totally dig what you're saying. That's all the best stuff about being in love. I just didn't realize that any women saw that stuff as romantic.