Is my wife bisexual, I need expert opinion

This raises the question: What is the line between fantasy and reality, and could that fantasy become reality if given the chance? My back then GF now wife used to say she was bi-curious and expressed an interest in making out with other women, but only if there was a man present, and it would be limited to kissing, touching, and licking. While watching porn, she seemed turned on by scenes involving two women and a man. However, when directly asked about her own desires, she would sometimes express discomfort, stating that she's not a lesbian and can't engage in such activities i i push more she gets annoyed and stating she is not a lesbian at all. But when asked about specific scenarios involving a particular man, she would immediately respond affirmatively. It seems like either she's in denial or sexuality is just too complex. She admitted on multiple occasions that she would be open to sharing an intimate experience with another woman if I were present or there is some perfect fantasy character. She said I would do anyhing for that co ck even if it means making out , even if there is transgender. I was shocked. It's perplexing, especially considering her specific preferences in the appearance of women she'd be interested in, while also stating that she likes men. It's a unique situation that highlights the intricacies of understanding a woman's mind

 

She doesn’t have to be bisexual to be attracted to women. The female body is a beautiful thing.

 

True. Just as I'm as straight as the arrow that robin hood used but I do find the attraction and allure in a well built, well hung man who stands out from the rest as special in his physical attributes and I'll comment openly on it. Just as an attractive female would get my attention.

 

You should be so lucky! We both agreed to try bi, for the experience. She was into photography at the time and it led to many different scenarios with other women, which I was fortunate to share in.

 

I often see with my young men how difficult it is for most people to say clearly what they actually want sexually, so that only in retrospect, when all the available information is interpreted, does it become clear what they probably wanted but didn't dare to say. You want the other person to recognise your wishes effortlessly and ideally put them into practice enthusiastically. What you don't want is to be begged. Or being interrogated.

So many people don't even know exactly what they want, which makes it even more important for the other person to support this exploration rather than stifle it with detailed questions.

When it comes to human sexuality, one's own desires are the most important source of information, as they are often very difficult to realise, especially when there is already a person that must be taken into account. The nowadays popular identification with a sexual category (I am straight/bi/gay or lesbian) does more harm than good when it comes to exploring sexuality.

Your wife is obviously making an effort to point out that you belong when she imagines sexual interaction with another person ("stating she is not a lesbian at all"). This should reassure you and make you realise that her wishes are not directed against you.

Is the focus here on homosexual or heterosexual interactions?

You don't say which her specific preferences in the appearance of women are, or how the cock (of the perfect fantasy figure?) suddenly comes into the picture.

Could it be that she wants to find out how you feel about the possibility of other men via other women in general or via a trans woman with a cock in particular, for whom she also feels a certain interest? Does she perhaps want sexuality to be less exclusive, does she want to integrate new people into her existing sexual practice?

What do your wishes look like? Can you imagine exploring new sexual territory, or does everything have to stay the same?

I find it very appealing how your wife imagines her sexual future not just as a repetition of the past.



By the way, if anyone is interested in polyamory, the forum of the same name (with the com suffix) is the best forum on the subject, and also very interesting for those who find polyamory far too exhausting but want to learn more about coping with unusual and complicated constellations.

 

I'm going to say "not bi-sexual," because it seems important to you to put a specific label on her.

She simply has a wider range of interests than you do. That's normal. For example, men tend to have very specific tastes in porn, with little variance per individual. Individual women tend to be aroused by a far greater range of types of porn than individual men are. It's been studied, and it is conclusively so.

She either sought you out or was receptive to you, in real life. You are still together. Take that as your most compelling indicator of her sexual preferences. She didn't insist on a non-monogamous marriage, waiving and requiring you to waive the forsaking-all-others vow. Leave it at that. You're her type. You have a penis, and she has a vagina. It's that simple.

She has a more active fantasy life than you do. So what? She may also be a more creative writer than you are. She may have more natural musical abilities than you do. She may have better vision at night than you do. Again, so what?

You asked her to be honest about her interests, and she was. Don't torture her. Appreciate her honesty and her uniqueness. Don't push her to do something, and then tell her you did so because she wanted it. If you want to have a MFF 3-some, get her consent, and be clear that it's your desire.