My boyfriend is the very masculine type. He says that he is fully gay and he does not like women. I am naturally quite feminine, im 5 ft 4 and if i had long hair i would probably look like a girl. He is 6 ft 4 and muscular and has masculine interests. He has recently suggested that i cross dress (not fully, just panties and stockings) when we have sex, this is something which id like to do but it has made me think that he isnt gay. Ive also noticed that many lesbians on this site are attracted to masculinity. There arent any gay men on this site (maybe some bi men) who are attracted to feminine men. This to me is puzzling because my boyfriend is.. if he is attracted to my femininity why is he not attracted to women. Also when we have sex, i am always the bottom, he says he has no interest in bottoming. I have confronted him about how i feel and he says he is gay. Another thing which confuses me is that when we have sex, he refers to my asshole as a "boy pussy" (please dont laugh ) Also why are so few gay men attracted to feminine men; when there are many lesbians who love masculine women?
I do not think that any person is fully 'gay'. I am sorry, I just don't. The question is, WHY IS THIS BOTHERING YOU? Are you so threatened by it that you can not be who you are? About me - I am a married white man. I am also bi. I LOVE wearing thongs and thigh highs during sex. At first, my wife was a bit confussed but then found she enjoyed it as well - the smooth silkyness of both of our legs. Does this make her gay? It is a question of what feels good - what is visually stimulating. This is probably what you are mistaking. He may have no desire to be with a woman but wants you to be more feminine and give him the 'visuals' he is desiring. Give him what he wants if it pleases both of you. You may really like it - I do! If he ends up swinging the other way later on, well that is apart of life friend! Even man and woman couples do it, gay couples will be no different. Enjoy, be safe, and live.....
i can't speak for the lesbians but it's because i am not attracted to women or femininity. thus guys who cross gender boundaries are not made of what i feel attraction for. i am attracted to men and masculinity only. ergo, guys who blur the lines between the genders are just not attractive. it has everything to do with the fact that my sexual attractions are just so polar. (this is also why i find masculine looking women better looking than feminine ones). if i inclined towards women even just a little i might feel attracted to guys like that. but that is not the case.
you are wrong. i am 100% gay. never felt attracted to women, not even on a level of friendship. never got it up for them, wouldn't be able to do it, wouldn't want to. some people are 100% gay just like some people are 100% straight. the ''everyone-is-bi'' myth is bullshit and bisexuals are the only ones who buy and propagate that nonsense.
Remember, opionions are like a$$holes in that - everyone has one and is entitled to their own. There WILL be one person in a 'gay' person's life of the opposite sex that they will end up finding an attraction for. They can deny it all they want... The fact is, it is more chemical and physilogical... My belief from what I have learned in my life. But we are not talking about me nor meridianwest. We are talking about you... My insight remains the same... Why is it bothering YOU? Why can you not except his desires but instead question them? This is not about him and what he likes or is looking for but rather why you are insecure about it.... Have a super week!
it's not denial if it's not happening. why do you keep insisting that gay people are not gay? you're bi that's your experience. doesn't make everybody that way. it's like insisting everyone must like raw meat when you do, when in fact plenty of people do not like it and won't eat it. what's the matter with you. i don't think anyone is really bisexual. that's just full nonsense. you either like men or women, but it's not possible to like both. so-called 'bisexuals' are just confused and don't know what the fuck they want.
Being that your BF has an ongoing sexual relationship with you, he is functionally gay at this time. That much is obvious. Why is he attracted to your femininity, and why is apparently not attracted to women is something that only he can fully and truthfully answer. Some guys out there find feminine guys attractive. This may be giving them an ego-boost since everyone sees who is "male" in that relationship? They may be simply wired that way. They like their guys on a feminine side. Just like some dudes like their guys younger, older, hairy or smooth? I would not waste any time wondering about this. Your relationships either works or it doesn't. The rest really doesn't matter. KD
My 2cents... I think sexuality is very complex and can't be defined by can be or can't be... I'm female and I love both cock and ****. I personally think of sexuality as a spectrum-obviously you define yourself to be at the very other end, which is fine. Doesn't mean middle-ground doesn't exist. And I find myself quite firmly in the middle. I can't help my sexual feelings no less than you can. From a young age I remember drawing breasts and fantasizing about women. When I grew older I really liked men. I love to be fucked by a man, but I also love fucking a woman. Truly, what does that make me, for I am not gay nor am I heterosexual... nor am I confused, for I know what I like.
i don't think sexuality is that complex at all. most people know what they like. it didn't take 10 minutes for me to know who i like, and i hadn't even entered high school back then. so, nothing complex about it. it's a rather simple and straightforward business. some people just fancy making ''their own particular brand of sexuality'' (as they like to think of it) more complex, or label themselves more complex. but in bare essence, that is not so, and neither is their sexuality. and that last paragraph of my post was obviously sarcastic and mocking.
I'm bisexual, but I also believe that everyone should be free to be themselves. I believe there are people that are 100% gay, people that are 100% straight... and LOTS of people that fall somewhere in between 100% straight and 100% gay.
I'm bisexual, but I also believe that everyone should be free to be themselves. I believe there are people that are 100% gay, people that are 100% straight... and LOTS of people that fall somewhere in between 100% straight and 100% gay.
I'm bisexual, but I also believe that everyone should be free to be themselves. I believe there are people that are 100% gay, people that are 100% straight... and LOTS of people that fall somewhere in between 100% straight and 100% gay.
Some men like women who are tomboys does that mean they are gay? No that’s ridiculous you are obviously a guy and it’s gay as hell to have sex with a guy he just likes small girly guys I do that too well I like my boyfriend and how he treats me then I do his body but it’s a nice bonus and he fully cross dresses for me like a skirt panties ext anything that gets me riled up it’s hard to explain in words but maybe he just is grossed out by female genitals or prefers cocks there are millions of reasons getting insecure and upset is not the way to go tho maybe try growing your hair out to see if he likes it?
Trying to simplify it all down is stupid I’m bisexual but being raped by a woman would make me “gay” don’t ya think? Get salt at bi’s all you like it won’t change anything we simply are more versatile
