Is Marriage Just Crap ?

I am afraid not Candy . We live in a throw away society and that includes marriages and relationships . That was one of the reasons I gave up counselling as the attitudes of some people were beyond belief.

 

You are quite right.

I always say to myself, do not get into a situation that can lead to temptation.
Sure I flirt, but that is just banter.

 

That's right but flirting you have to be careful about as some can get the wrong message . Even smiling can be risky. About 3 years ago I was in a Town Centre Cabaret Bar ( remember those before lockdown Lol ) and this very attractive blond smiled and winked at me and so being courteous I smiled back. Within a few seconds she was tapping me on the shoulder whilst I was next to my wife . That was really awkward . So I tend to be a bit more reserved at giving compliments but still happy to receive them and I do get plenty .

 

oH my. You must be handsome. x

 

I was approached whilst on business in Manchester by a couple scouting for a modelling agency for doing some over 50s work . I was flattered but I am trying to slow down and I don't like the models lifestyle of living out of a suitcase . Yes I am not exactly the archetypical over 50s guy.

 

Awww stay happy. Glad you have a stable marriage. x

 

Thanks

Yes I love her to bits . But she has to put up with al lot especially when we go out .

But going back on topic again , like some other couples we have had our staleness . However we worked at it and fixed it. Sometimes its just needs better communication and spicing things up again to put the VA VA Voom back .

 

I totally agree, marriage is only crap if you allow it to be that way.

 

Yes whilst I agree in some cases it kind of creeps up on you and before you know it your like ships passing in the night. That's when one needs to have that "chat" with their partner and work at ways on improving things. A common cause is dedication to the kids and putting them first. Its quite easily fixed if a common agreeable solution can be worked out and if a couple want it fixed of course. . This is what I used to do in my former role.

Going back to my own marriage its our Silver Anniversary next year. The anniversary just gone( April) kind of got swallowed up in the lockdown .

 

Oh, congratulations. xxx

 

Thanks. Its sad but fewer and fewer marriages tend to reach that point these days.

 

Nearly all my friends are on second or third marriages.

 

Once will do me. If it ends I'm becoming a full time tart lol

 

LOL

 

What is a crock to one is the truth and a life of ease to another. We just have a difference of opinions. I have been in so called relationships in the past. They are a Pandora's box.

 

Its no crock its how to answer someone like you, the thing is your never have a stable relationship, you cant you want to move about all the time, your see the next woman and move and so on.

 

Oh my. Marriage for me is security and love.

 

Mines get the big 50 in November and we still love one an other I think, no its been good we have our ups and downs but that's life, I think I will always love her.

 

Well I kinda guessed that with you.

 

Boy how can you read my mind or is it an open book?