Is Marriage Just Crap ?

Happy for you.... truly.
I went through 27 years of a bad marriage. Remained in it to raise my two kids, then I got the hell out of it.
Been married now for the 2nd time for 2 years now, lived together for 3.
I cannot begin to tell you how much better life is when you are with someone who actually cares at the very least as much about you as they do themselves.
i cannot fully describe the appreciation I have for her.

 

I am glad you found true happiness in the end. That is important.

 

It is, I use to completely believe a quote from Paul McCartney.... "happiness is an exception, not the norm".
He was wrong. Happiness can be the norm. It just takes choosing the right person.

 

It certainly does, and I am afraid we cannot always tell who that might be.

 

marriage is a piece of paper that makes two people living together look moral.

 

Americans insist the government decides who is married and who is not married, who gets what property and who gets screwed. Ask Mic Jagger for more details, but it includes your right to watch them die in the hospital.

 

Rights and responsibilities of marriages in the United States - Wikipedia

 

We're gonna get marrrrried
And run away..

 

Well lets put it this way.......................

 

It’s like everything else. There are happy marriages and unhappy marriages. I get so annoyed with bitter people pretending like every marriage is the same.

My husband and I are ridiculously happy. We have that whole cliche “best friends” thing going (probably because we really were best friends before it turned into more). We do fun stuff together frequently and we both love making the other person happy. We don’t do it because we have to but because we enjoy it. Marriage has never seemed like work to us.

 

Half of married couples divorce, and 90% of them remarry for life. It reflects their economic reality and how they reproduce as a modern nomadic upwardly mobile society. The fact the world's economy is rapidly being divided between rich and poor, reflects the growing popularity among the rich and poor alike for alternatives.

 

Once is enough. If you divorce once there is no reason to do it again.

 

The rich are not like us, which is why Elizabeth Taylor would beg to differ. Peasants are becoming cheaper by the dozen. Just ask Donald Duck.

 

No marriage is not crap !

With that said however society has moved into an era self gratification so much so that it's increasingly impossible for marriages to work. The wedding vows are forgotten on day two and it seems everyone reverts to " it's all about me ". Marriage is a union of two people finding one purpose one life which dooms most of today's marriages from the get go.

The modern alternative is to avoid entanglement and pursue one's own gratification along the way without strings, witness the rapid decline in America's birth rate as marriage and child rearing become obsolete.

 

I agree with you in regards to marriage. Sadlly that's where its at in 2019. most people are easily led down a path of lasciviousness which kinda destroys the relationship. People seem to lack any kind of empathy now. I guess that's partly from television and movies. Violence reduces ones level of empathy. bad parenting leads to screwed up people.

 

Selfishness ironically leads to less gratification. you have to give to get something back. Look at Rome for example. Being selfish means they ended up losing the empire because when only one wins everybody else ends up disgruntled which ultimately leads to people going against the leaders.

 

The workaholic white populations of both America and the EU are crashing, as is the Japanese population. Intimacy without honesty is a McDonald's soyburger. Conservative men in the US are importing Russian brides and Asian brides in record numbers, simply because they are more obedient and these men have careers and need a partner, not a trophy or a puppy dog. Disney is now working with the porn industry, while Japanese men prefer their porn stars to look about 13 years old.

All the more recent studies indicate that John Boy Walton had the right idea, and the suburbs are a death trap. You either learn to pay it forward and share, or don't reproduce in the long run.

 

If that's true its probably because Russian and Asian women are more traditional although I think the trend in Asia is heading towards hedonism like in the West. I read about a Chinese billionairie that married a pretty Chinese girl and eventually she left him. that's set a bad precedent. Im guessing now that fellow Chinese will be thinking twice about getting married.

 

Even if half of China stopped getting married.. There'd still be like 2 billion marriages, in China alone.