Is jaw pain normal when giving blow jobs?

I was just wondering if anyone else's jaw/mouth/neck hurt really bad when giving a guy a blow job? Mine hurt after maybe 3 to 5 minutes in, and it hurts really really bad, I start getting stiff and my jaws hurt for a while afterwards. Sometimes my guy enjoys it too much or takes too long and I just want to cry, I don't enjoy it and I can't do a very good job at it this way. Is this normal? Is this something that you just have to get used to and do everyday to "stay in shape" in that area? Even if I do it every day, it doesn't seem to get better, I give up after a week. I've even tried strong pain pills. It helps cut down on the misery afterwards, but it still hurts pretty bad during.

My neck hurts from holding my head up and moving it up and down, but that's not so much the problem as is having to have my mouth so wide open for such a long time, THAT is where the real pain is.

It's disappointing because I can never seem to last for the whole thing. It feels like he takes freakin' FOREVER and it just goes on, and on, and on, and on, and on..... the pain gets to me before we get to where I was hoping to get to with it, and I have to stop and make him continue with his hand. I feel really bad.

How long is a typical BJ session anyway?

My hubby kind of has this attitude of "oh everyone is that way you just have to get used to it" and sometimes I swear, he's not gutsy enough to admit it but sometimes I think he just thinks I'm using it hurting as an excuse not to, or I'm a wimp, or something. It's like since he watched so many porns and hears about all these women that just love giving blow jobs from his friends that I should be able to also.

So I am just wondering if it really is normal to hurt like that when giving a BJ or if I am just a wimp.

I put this in women's issues instead of the sex forum because I am interested in women's point of view, lol.

 

sometimes it hurts, but thats how you learn techniques to not make it hurt
my jaw will pop out of joint so i often pull back and close my jaw before continuing. i also use my hands as much if not more than my mouth after lubing him up with my saliva, so that when i pull back he still gets some touch/sensation. and then you have to find an angle where you can comfortable bob on his cock, as it were. i cannot do it comfortable with us both on the bed, him laying down. i need to be at an edge with him sitting or laying back, so he usually is on the edge of the bed and im kneeling on the floor, that is whats most comfortable for me

some pain/discomfort is normal. to the point o fneeding pain pills is NOT at ALL normal, and your hubby is a jackass if he thinks its normal to need pain medication to deal with a blowjob

as for how long, depends on the guy. ive had past bfs cum in less than 5 minutes, my current bf rarely if ever cums from oral sex so we use it as foreplay primarily... but if we are doing just oral for him to get off its like 20-30min at least

 

A good tip to cut down on neck and jaw pain is to have him lay down with his legs up and you sit cross-legged between his legs and do it from there. I noticed that it doesn't hurt as much...although my man doesn't get off when I give him head anyway...but when I try, I do it that way.

 

man, reading that was like reading my own thoughts. Thankgod I'm not the only one!
I really don't have any advice for you, since I'm wondering all the same things, it really is helpful to read everyone else's responses. You're not the only one

 

My x b/f complained so much about how "horrible" i was at giving head, but he didn't understand that it fucking hurts! He said that was one of the reasons why "we" broke up. hahaha just proves how much of a man he was. Anyways, you're certainly not the only one!

 

Yeah, definitely not. I have never been able to get my fiance off while giving him head. It takes too damn long! If he would get off in a couple of minutes I would be fine, but it takes over ten to fifteen minutes. I think that's the longest I've ever been able to go with him. I don't want to go into sexual details, but it's partly a size issue. My jaw aches after five minutes- but luckily he understands so normally I only go for a couple minutes.

It sucks that guys can be jerks- if my SO told me to use pain killers to get through the pain or told me I sucked at giving head, I tell him to do it himself! But that's me and I don't believe that I should put up with that shit.

Peace and love

 

that is one of the reasons why we are not together.

 

Definitely happens to me... I'm gonna try what lovelyxmalia suggested though. But yeah my guy is pretty big too so my jaw and neck will hurt but he doesn't make me do it for too long so we can move on to other things hah Your guy should listen to you and respect that it hurts you, he's gonna have to deal with getting less blow jobs if it keeps hurting you. Girls are not usually like porn stars!

 

Oh God yes! It doesn't help that I have a really small jaw (the dentist had to pull a bunch of baby teeth AND 4 adults when I was 12 because my jaw wouldn't fit them all!)...I hate giving blowjobs. I've gotten to a point where I'll pretty much refuse- I'm happy to get someone else off, but NOT if it's hurting me!!

 

Try a little bit of booze. Works like a charm every single time for me.

 

Thanks for the responses, all! I feel better knowing I'm not just the odd duck. And suggestions are good too (keep 'em coming)

I should clarify that my hubby's not a completely asshole, he ACTS very understanding about the matter and says he doesn't want me doing it if it hurts. He's very sweet about it but the disappointment on his face yells louder than the compassion, if you know what I mean. So he's not exactly a jerk, but I hate seeing him so disappointed.

 

Uh-huh. My jaw used to hurt something awful when I would blow my ex-boyfriend. Honestly, though, I just hate giving head. Maybe that was because he took forever.

 

when my hubby complains about my bj skills, I just don't give him one for months, lol
when he asks, I just tell him he compains too much.
I would rather him tell me what he likes instead of complaining and leaving me to figure it all out, only to have him bitch more.

 

Ah, yes the suck/pump method. Never a winner from the woman's perspective. You might try other things instead of just having him in your mouth the whole time, it's much nicer for you and he'll probably enjoy it too. A little sensual kissing (NO TEETH!) a few licks, maybe use your hand for a bit while you lick his balls or bite him softly on the thigh...I think you should initiate a play session to find out what he likes so you can incorporate that into your oral adventures. Some people find a methodical approach like that a little off putting but that's just my advice. Don't make him jerk off if you give up, do that part for him.

You can also ask around the gay forum, they're probably the most knowledgeable on the subject what with being on both the giving and receiving ends.

 

well, and a part of it is pure muscle conditioning. when i first started out, i'd get really sore and tired in my upper back, neck, jaw, tongue, throat. but hell, not even a twinge now. just be patient and work your way up to longer bj's. it could help.

 

I agree, that's the comfiest way for me to sit (and his favourite) so I ALWAYS do, and I never have problems...
But about the jaw pain, before I first got with my husband, I almost never gave head (since I had a lot of 'casual sex'/'just-friends') so it was a change, and made my jaw sore... but I -like- doing it so it's not a once-in-a-while thing and now, it doesn't bother me at all. It really does just take some time, and finding a comfy position. It's all easy from there.

 

Another thing I noticed is that my mouth gets really dry. We got this lube made for blow jobs called Good Head. It's in minty and fruity flavors and what it does is it causes temperature changes...hot when your mouth goes down and cold when it comes up...causing the guy to go quicker.

 

I feel the exact. same. way.
I know this thread is old, but I just have to comment!
I always get my guy off during a bj but I'm in absolute pain (also thought about
using pain killers) and he seems to take AGES !!
It's not helping that he stopped going down on me months ago -.-'
It's a seriously painful feeling that really does make you wanna cry.
Plus it makes me aggressive too haha >.>

 

My jaw usually gets sore but not enough to stop in the middle of it.