Is It Unreasonable....

Is it unreasonable to be annoyed at your friends when they don't give you any notice, and instead send you a text saying "What are you doing? I am in front of your house right now."
This has been happening a lot lately.
This bugs me. It bugs me so much. I mean, can't someone give me an hour's notice? Say something along the lines of "Hey, are you around today? I'll be in your neighborhood". Don't just fucking text when you are in front of my house, and expect me to drop whatever I am doing.

I really don't take well to people not respecting my time.
My husband, on the other hand, doesn't understand why this bugs me....

Would this bug you? Or are you of the same mindset as my man?

 

If they were in front of my house they would be trespassing... My property is posted.

 

It would bug me, but I actually have the opposite problem sometimes. I hate it when someone texts they are coming over, then they're an hour late. It's usually the same person who does this too.

 

It's very rude.

 

At least if you know they are going to be an hour late, you can have an idea of what time they will show up.

 

No, it would bug them not me.I would've never answered back. I have my phone on no sound and often answer back hours or days later. Or sometimes i don't answer back at all. People get frustrated and stop calling me which is exactly what i want.

 

yeah, i feel the same way. i think one of my few threads on here was actually about this subject.

some people just seem to have nothing else going on. lately people keep texting me to hang out, but the initial text never comes until i'm already in the middle of something.

 

So much depends on who is knocking at my door; there are friends and then there are friends, the same for relatives.


Hotwater

 

This is a good point....

I just don't think it is too much to ask for some amount of notice. Even an hour, heck, half an hour.

 

Depends on who it is for me, but most of my family just walk in anyway.

 

I have the opposite problem usually, people saying that they will do something at a particular time, and somehow that time becomes later and later. And by that point I am no longer interested because waiting on them is a waste of my time.

Yes that would bug me. I like to know EXACTLY what is going on. And I will hold you to that. No exceptions. And if you fail at this, I will quickly write you off in a blink of an eye.

Somehow people are fascinated when I can estimate the time that an event will occur, whether that be my arrival, or the completion of some complex process ... and when the event occurs I tell them to look at what time it is, and they are awe struck; dazed and confused that the time on the clock is exactly to the minute what my estimate was ... some of them think I either practice some type of voodoo or have some type of telepathic ability. Both of these are bunk, ... it's obviously something else that enables me to be able to do such things. And I think such things scare some people, as they don't understand it.

 

I like to over plan, and then go with the flow......

 

When I was a teenager/young adult this used to be more common, I'd just be around someone's area and drop em a text to see if they wanted to hang. Usually they'd be as bored as me in the day and we'd hang out for a bit. It's a sad sign of getting older that we now seem to have to plan further and further in advance just to have a casual hangout. trying to organise a group thing with competing work and study schedules is a nightmare too.

 

I kind of love it actually - but i'm the type of person that really only has best friends and then casual aquaintances. There isnt really an in between. My casual aquaintances wouldnt bother and i love to see my best friends anytime.

If i was having sex or something i would ignore their texts and knocks but pretty much anything else i'm doing they're welcome to walk in and join me.

 

This stops happening once people start having families.

 

It's not unreasonable at all.
I don't like people just stopping by randomly, without letting me know before.
I don't like surprises, and luckily my friends and family members know and respect that.
Of course, I like having people over and everyone's always welcome, but just let me know, it's not that difficult.

 

i dont mind it


its the emergency calls i hate..always happens when im in the middle of supper or have a splitting headache and they need me right away

 

This used to happen to me more frequently when I lived in the heart of the city. Nowadays not so much. Most of the time it'd happen when I wasn't busy so I was almost always accommodating.

 

if you call inconsiderate people friends, if you have to call inconsiderate people friends in order to have friends, i don't know.
i kind of guess it all depends on how much and how often you need or want to be around other people.

sure its unreasonable to be inconsiderate.
that's one of the screwy things about the dominant culture, that it seems to have somehow forgotten and needs to wake up and realize this.

as for the ongoing popularity of the obsession with being perpetually linked into a social network by telecommunications technology,
if that's what people want, they might as well form a borg collective. or have people forgotten what those were?