I've been friends with my boyfriend for two months, we've dated for two weeks now and we've had sex twice soo far, I feel we are moving too fast, the sex is beautiful and all but I just think we are moving fast, is it okay to continue with the sex or hold back? and if I'm to do so how do I hold back?
I'm guessing you are young. It is always OK to say no or even not yet. Tell him how you feel. I am not making any judgement on quick sexual involvement, but I am going to say that it is fine to change your pace.
Yeah, if you want to take it slow on the sex part, then you should talk to him about it. Compatibility and communication are the key things that make a relationship work. As for the answer to your question of "is it okay to continue with the sex, or hold back?", that totally depends on what you want. If you want to keep having sex with him, then keep having sex with him. If you want to slow down, then slow down.
Maybe the sex is what is important to you. Males are that way, and it's females who are usually the choosy, picky ones, who make males jump through hoops before rewarding them with anything. If you have more of a male-type libido, maybe you don't want to play the choosy, picky, withholding role. In my case, I'm partially trans male and want to be the predator..seducing my prey. It was very hard to pretend to be a choosy, coy female type. Of course, if a female acts eager it can make the male uneasy, since it indicates a high male hormone index. A pursued straight typically turns and runs since males are natural predators and can't understand prey that doesn't run. Still...it's so hard to play female games if you don't feel it.
this is ridiculous. it's not about gender or games. just act like an adult and tell people what you want.
